r/AskMen 13d ago Helpful 4 Silver 4 Narwhal Salute 1 Wholesome 2 Ally 1

Where did you bump into your ex and how was that?

I bumped into my ex at the grocery tonight. I haven’t seen her in over ten years and we were together for 3 years. Lived together for 2 years. Both in our late twenties at the time.

Not paying attention, picking out a frozen pizza, with a cart full of junk food because I shopped hungry and I was wearing my dirty work clothes and she tapped me on the shoulder.

We talked for about ten minutes catching up. She showed me a picture of her kid and I showed her a few of mine. I took off my hat and showed her how gray my hair is getting and she said how she hates how she now has wrinkles under her eyes. They were hardly noticeable.

She seemed nervous. We both sort of stood there for a moment and I smiled and said “nice seeing you” and she did the same.

We broke up for good reasons but man do I have so many mixed emotions right now.

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u/Neonjoe94 13d ago

At a grocery store

She looked familiar and was staring at me but I was in the middle of a phone call so kept walking

Didn’t register who it was until 10min later

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u/Vy_Canis_Mikey 13d ago

Holy smokes. The lizard part of your brain recognized her before mission control did and was like “Not today! We ain’t got time!”.

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u/The_Dovahpoes 13d ago

Hahaha I love it

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u/HovercraftOnly802 13d ago

"The lizard part" lol I need to remember that one.

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u/V1k1ng1990 13d ago

I saw mine walking by me at a grocery store. My wife saw the look we gave each other and said “you fucked her didn’t you?”

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u/Maximum-Carpet2740 13d ago

I told my wife about a girl I used to date the summer after I got out of high school who worked at a sno-cone shack in our town, and how we had sex in there while she was working.

Now every time we drive by it, she gives me shit about the “fuck shack.” She’s never going to let it go.

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u/V1k1ng1990 13d ago

Hahaha the fuck shack

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u/fuckingbitchasspunk 13d ago

Ha! My wife and I were hiking in a national forest and bumped into one guy in literally the middle of nowhere and he was like "OMG Susan!!!, it's been like 20 years since I've seen you." and I just knew she boned the guy. Turns out it was a bf of 4 months from college who actually stalked her for a bit after.

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u/allah_berga 13d ago

A bit? lol sounds like he was still stalking

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u/MomJeans- 13d ago

Can’t leave us on a cliff hanger, how did the rest of that conversation go??

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u/V1k1ng1990 13d ago

Not very eventful lol

“Yes I did before we met, that was my manager I told you about”

“Oh ok I could tell haha”

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u/roastpoast 13d ago

What exactly was the look you gave each other? My one 40year old female coworker once figured out I was seeing this girl at work just based on the look the girl gave me one day. Still can't figure it out.

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u/GSalex 13d ago Wholesome Take My Energy

I crashed into her new bf's car while they were going to a wedding, first time seeing her in over 3 years.

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u/AMatofFact 13d ago

Like "damn, we're no longer together and you still manage to ruin my day!"

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u/foamingturtle 13d ago Silver

What are the odds? Us running into each other like this?

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u/kttuatw 13d ago

Wow! Hey didn’t see you there but anyways how have you been!!!!

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u/Ok-Communication6857 13d ago

At least you got one last smash in…

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u/ggagito 13d ago

This would be funnier if it was their wedding.

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u/georgemillman 13d ago

Crashed the wedding, literally.

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u/Icy-Entertainer-7976 13d ago

Thought the same thing.

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u/LAMG1 13d ago

This must be weird.

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u/Open-Ticket-3356 13d ago edited 13d ago

not if he stalked her for years and just forgot to brake while recording her. “What a coincidence that I am wherever you are. I have photos of all her boyfriends after me”

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u/grranby 13d ago

Literally crashing into your ex lol, nice

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u/hogey74 13d ago

Ok this isn't a race but mate. Fuck. You're winning. Fuck.

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u/AgreeableSeries 13d ago

Can you imagine what a shit day she had that day, damn

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u/scorpionhunter5 13d ago

What a way to meet your ex.

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u/OhLordyLordNo 13d ago

That was an accident, right?

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u/allyb321 13d ago

Like, deliberately? 😂

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u/Strigon_7 13d ago

Met her at a mutual friend function, with her new boyfriend. He seemed nice until he wanted to fight me, for undisclosed reasons. Long story short, he got into a screaming match with her in the middle of the pub before they both stormed off. The ribs were good sliders not so much.

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u/BiggieAndTheStooges 13d ago

Bet that scene tasted better than the ribs

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u/Bishop_Pickerling 13d ago

Stay away from the sliders and crazy exes

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u/Sermrgoodsir 13d ago Silver Helpful

And guys sliding into your crazy exes

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u/ProtoJMan 13d ago

I’m a burger guy so it’s hard for me to imagine ribs being better than sliders.

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u/LordofTheFlagon 13d ago

I don't know man I've had some terrible sliders

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u/i_know_i_dontknow 13d ago

While on the first date with someone new. Few months after our breakup (we were both in our late 20s). It was a mini ZOO and she was there with her dad. It was awkward as they wanted to chat and the girl I came with didn’t really feel comfortable.

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u/supe3rnova 13d ago Wholesome

Similar here. I was with my current girlfriend first date. We went for coffee and later for icecream. I said lets go to Icecream place B but to get there we had to go by Icecream place A. Where just so happened to be my ex in the line with her date. We looked eachother in the eye as I walked past the line, nodded and smiled and I went on.

Backstory: I talked with my ex every few months over this and that, to exchange our stuff etc. I always said I want to meet outside as I didn't wan to ''tangle'' We also talked about our dates, the good ones and the bad ones (fun fact, she went on a date with a guy who dated my 1st girlfriend when she dumped me and I joked how he picks up my scraps).

The week prior to the story above we talked about something and I also told her few things go get off my chest. I asked if she has anything to get off her chest to which she replied: ''I just can't find anyone to fuck. At times I want to ask you but it feels wrong'' Horny as I was and in the same boat, I told her ''fuck it, let's meet and do it.'' We set the day for Thursday.

Thursday comes and she said that she can't meet because of some excuse . We talked some more and we both said we have a date tomorrow and jokingly said ''you have the north part of the town and I have the south''. As faith would have it, both iceacream places were just in the center of north and south. Hence the nod and smile.

I don't know how everything would turn around if we would fuck one day before I meet my girlfriend and had the best 1st day ever.

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u/cosmitz The fuck is this, the fuck is that 13d ago

I don't know how everything would turn around if we would fuck one day before I meet my girlfriend and had the best 1st day ever.

It's just one of those things. I had been at the tailend of about 10 years of absolutely crummy dating and relationships, with few small jewels of a moment here and there, and of those, last three years of intense searching and very active dating with absolutely abysmal results. I had just gotten out of some garbage entanglement and while i was still doing my daily swipes and intros, i was just ready to call it quits for real this time. I was tired and drained and absolutely 'done' with dating and trying to find someone good for me. But almost the exact 2-3 days when i was feeling like cathartically disabling all my dating apps and profiles, i start messaging a chick haphazardly.

We're now two months together that felt like a year, extremely active period, and we're both very happy, and planning on moving in.

Context, she has been out of a relationship for a while but had /just/ started up her dating profile again. If we had mistimed that by a day or two.. we would have never met.

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u/ryanwscott 13d ago

I’ve always been amazed by the stories of how if even just ONE little thing had been different out of a series of like 20 things that absolutely HAD to happen the way they did, two people would’ve never met or gotten together

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u/cosmitz The fuck is this, the fuck is that 13d ago

It goes a bit further.. i was never a first date kisser, but had trained myself to kiss on the first date as a way to show interest/romance/passion. I felt like i lost some women since maybe i seemed asexual or not interested in that way.

However, for this chick, i just didn't, followed my gut and was true to myself. Found out later that were i to have moved in for the kiss, she would not have continued us dating. She had good reasons for herself, same ones i had for not kissing on the first date, but one single misstep and we wouldn't have had the chance to discover eachother. We joke about it and i tease her a bit with it, but yeah, we both managed to get in through eachothers "gates".

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u/breischl 13d ago edited 13d ago

At an obscure spring near the bottom of the Grand Canyon.

We hadn't talked in a year. I was nine days into a commercial rafting trip down the river, taking a side hike up to the springs. She was on a week-ish backpacking trip with her dad. We got there within 20 minutes of each other.

Grand Canyon NP covers 1,904 square miles, the vast majority of it accessible only on foot, but apparently it is not big enough for the both of us.

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u/weavebot 13d ago

At a wedding. She was drunk and tried to make out with me in front of her boyfriend, whom the bride and maid of honor told me was an absolute jerk so I should screw her in the limo, but I'm not getting involved in that nonsense.

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u/Neonjoe94 13d ago

Good choice

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u/Moped_and_bread 13d ago Silver

No way. I mean yeah obviously smart move but I want some good stories ! Think about me bro

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u/MindSwipe 13d ago

The reason I do stupid things is because it may lead to a good story for my autobiography

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u/slothfuldrake 13d ago

The difference between a good story and a cautionary tale is the ending

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u/ZRtoad 13d ago

Is it bad that I do this sometimes. I think to myself. “that’s not a good idea. But will it make a good story? Fuck it let’s do this!”

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u/TheSilversky64 13d ago

Sometimes, the only winning move is to not play at all.

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u/0100100110101 13d ago

Omg, this just gave me flashbacks. I also ran into a drunk ex at a wedding. I was there with my new GF (now wife).

I was with the ex for about 1.5 years. Then we'd been apart for about 2 years.

Ex's very drunk friend bailed me up at the bar, saying that she "really needed me to help her" carry some extra drinks she'd ordered over to her table. I reluctantly agree. Then she said "Oh, look who's here... You two need to talk". I placed the drinks down and walked away as fast as I could.

The night was going downhill, so we left early.

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u/Korimuzel 13d ago edited 13d ago

"she has a terrible boyfriend, we need someone else to save her from a relationship she doesn't want to get out of"

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u/mobofblackswans 13d ago

To Dave someone is a specific kind of Save, when you're the good guy and people need you to step in and do good guy things to fix a bad situation

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u/JustUberDave 13d ago

Dave someone? Well, I’m here.

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u/_mews 13d ago

Was this recently..?

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u/weavebot 13d ago

Nope for all I know she's broken up with him or married him by now. Maybe 8 years ago now

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u/Lungomono 13d ago

That sounded like an “interesting” group. I think you made the right choice, calling pass on that.

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u/hella_cutty 13d ago

The club. She was high on ketamine.

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u/daftvaderV2 13d ago

She walked into the petrol site I was managing.

I saw her and walked out the back.

I didn't want to speak to her ever again

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u/BrakkeBama 13d ago

Sounds almost exactly what happened to me three weeks ago.
I saw an ex of mine where we had a very bad breakup. Heartache on both sides. This was 2004! Last time I had seen her was in 2006. I finally forgot about her but it took a few years. I thought I'd never see her again... but lo and behold; on a Saturday I was enjoying my beer, having a great time in my favorite bar. And suddenly she stood a few feet from me right outside the door. For a fleeting second she catches my eyes. I immediately laid down my beer and left the place. My night (and following week) was ruined.

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u/r_m_castro 13d ago

It used to happen with me all the time at college. We were from the same course and had the same friends.

We were first time boyfriend/girlfriend and dated for 8 years till she broke my heart in pieces. I'd bump into her at least once a month for the final 2 years of college.

It'd always ruin my mood.

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u/Zogeta 13d ago

I feel you. I'm able to be cordial and legitimately friendly with an ex from college now all these years later, but it's only because I was able to not see her for a long time and heal. It was impossible to heal back during college, I had to run into her and her new boyfriend she left me for multiple times a week, and it hit a refresh button on all the heartache every time. Instant mood ruiner.

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u/NoD_Spartan 13d ago edited 13d ago

My high school reunion was probably the same. She brought her new boyfriend with her. We asked all that bringing their SO to the reunion would be to much to handle, because we didn't had the space for all of us. But she ignored it. Later that night she tried to sit next to me or in my circle for 2 hours and tried to make me jealous. Thanks to that I am now completely over her and I don't waste* another sec of my thoughts on her.

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u/Warder766312 13d ago

At a charity event. My employer was donating a bunch of money to the nonprofit where she worked. I went not knowing that. I hated every minute of it, she kept wanting to be friendly and buddy buddy. You don’t cheat on a man and try to baby trap him with another man’s child then expect anything except contempt.

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u/EustachiaVye 13d ago

She was kissing your ass because she didn’t want her co-workers to know what she did to you.

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u/ilikeeatingbrains 12d ago

A true charity case

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u/Born-Bathroom2886 13d ago

Smiling and laughing "We both know what you did. Stay away from me. Cool? Cool..."

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u/Accurate_Bullfrog864 XY 13d ago

Rightfully so. Man I don't know how you maintained your calm. If it was me, I would've lashed out real bad on her.

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u/Warpedme 13d ago

I would have introduced her to my boss. "And this is Wendy, we used to date. She cheated on a me and tried to baby trap me with another man’s baby." and I'd do it perfectly calmly and with a smile on my face.

And I might have actually done it for real because it was the first thing that popped in my head. Normally something that witty doesn't pop in my head until days later while showering or shitting.

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u/MattieShoes Male 13d ago

Haha, you need a certain relationship with your boss or else you're just embarrassing the boss by proxy.

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u/shuaiyutao 13d ago

I would have been lost my control too, must have been hard.

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u/Bielsaball23 13d ago

At a bar 2 weeks ago. We were together for 6 years but broke up 8 years ago. She was an awful person, as soon as she saw me and my current fiancé she tried to put on a big extravagant show which was hilarious. Also when I was walking back from the toilet past her table she asked me if she could “have a word for a minute” to which I replied with a jovial “Nope!”

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u/Vy_Canis_Mikey 13d ago

I almost wish my breakup with my ex had been a slam dunk so that I wouldn’t feel bad about noping out of an encounter. I felt conflicted. Like I almost wanted to go after her…but at the same time, if I had seen her first and she didn’t notice me, I might have just abandoned my cart and left the store.

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u/Bielsaball23 13d ago

Yeah I understand that. A solid break is often the best way! I feel like I would be constantly wondering “what if” if I were in your shoes

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u/[deleted] 13d ago edited 10d ago Wholesome

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u/LAMG1 13d ago

This is great and it should be go like this.

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u/MustardyFartBubble 13d ago

Sometimes it do should be go like that

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u/kinkyKMART 13d ago

Thank god, was dumbstruck but how many stereotypical “I hate my crazy ex” stories are in here. We broke up mutually as well for similar reasons after dating all thru uni and I’d imagine it’d go similar to this

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u/Anti-Scuba_Hedgehog Male 13d ago

I don't hate my ex, or exes rather but I'd be happy if I never had to see them again.

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u/Ouija429 13d ago

Okay I wouldn't call her an ex but she was something. She was a bit crazy and wanted me to keep sleeping with her even after I found she was engaged. She had absolutely no concept of personal boundaries so I ghosted her. I made a joke with my friends once that if they ever saw her around town to tell her I was dead. Turns out they actually did do it and I didn't know, so one day she sees me in the mall and lost it.

Tldr: Her kid and husband did not seem very entertained with the crying and kissing.

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u/Minister_of_XXX Mannish Boy 13d ago

That tldr tho 💀

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u/UCMeInvest 13d ago

No fucking way 😂😂 that’s hilarious

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u/NotSoMuch_IntoThis 13d ago edited 13d ago

Tldr was nothing like the paragraph it’s supposed to summarize, I appreciate the surprise.

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u/007_xTk0 13d ago

Wait so she… had a kid and husband but did a run while crying tears flowing down her face to kiss you?! … what the fuck man. xD

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u/narfywoogles 13d ago

This is the crazy you’re told not to stick your dick in.

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u/Ouija429 12d ago

She really was, I feel bad for her husband. She originally was only interested in him for his money, dude had just got divorced and rushed into marrying her. From what he told me after they got divorced she was constantly cheating on him, developed a drug and alcohol problem(she already had it),she'd get drunk and start a fight with him to the point neighbors called the police and arrests were made.

On the upside after the divorce it seems like she finally got sober moved to a larger city went back to college and got a degree. It took her until she was like 35 to get her life together but she did it.

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u/DiamondDoge92 Sup Bud? 13d ago

At California pizza kitchen while I was with my new gf and she was with her family. I noticed her step dad and sister then I noticed her and told my gf I think we should go lol.

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u/decent_bastard 13d ago

Ayo shouts to CPK

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u/RedRightandblue 13d ago

Guerrilla marketing /s?

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u/Pitpit1391 13d ago

Canadian tire. An employee was helping me search up tires for my car. After choosing some he says go to the next counter to make an appointment for installation. I walk up and it's my ex. Shocked as fuck I chuckle and say "well this is odd". She acted as if I was just a regular customer, maybe that was the best thing to do.

Then next week after my appointment she's there again to take my payment. This time she was more dolled up, almost like she was expecting someone. Again she didnt acknowledge me as an ex and said "have fun" when i was on my way out. What make the whole thing even funnier is that her new boyfriend was the one to work on my car.

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u/ConfusedDude352 13d ago

Check the brakes….

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u/PanPedrita 13d ago Silver

and the tires.....

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u/Canadianz 13d ago

I didn’t think anybody actually bought tires at a Canadian Tire. I mean, they do sell tires. That’s just not why people go there mostly.

Source: Am Canadian. First I’ve heard of anyone buying tires there.

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u/Pitpit1391 13d ago

You're not wrong. This is in a small town though so it's one of the only options. Otherwise it's 30mins to the city. Then who knows how long sitting in traffic.

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u/IntensityJokester 13d ago Helpful

Even longer without tires, I imagine

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u/canexa Male 13d ago

Coffee makers, camping equipment, bicycles, toilet paper... It's like Walmart.

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u/f4te 13d ago

it's like ADULT walmart, except the whole thing is the toy section and i could get lost in there for hours wondering if i really need a set of swivel head ratcheting wrenches to go along side my fixed head ratcheting wrenches

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u/nianp 13d ago

Was out having lunch with a girlfriend, watching people walk by. Was looking at 2 cops and thinking about the female cop "she looks really familiar."

Then I realised she was a bit of a crazy ex but by then she'd seen me see her and I had to say hi and make pleasantries for a bit before they she left.

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u/das_jet 13d ago

2017 I think, I saw her (pregnant at that time), her mom and her husband at chick fil a, she waved, her mom waved, husband shot me a dirty look

Saw her again like a year later at Starbucks, she had her daughter with her and she was with a friend, I said hi, she said hi, I said her daughter was cute, that was about it lol. We’re still Facebook friends but don’t interact really. She had another kid recently, I’m pretty happy for her tbh

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u/SLAK0TH 13d ago

I walked into my ex at the train station about one year after we broke up. I moved on with my life at that point but there were some feelings there still. We talked for about 10 minutes and we both felt comfortable and wanted to grab a cafe somewhere to talk and catch up. Needless to say this was a bad idea on my part since I still had feelings for her and the breakup didn’t end on good terms. She basically cheated on me at the end of the breakup. I acted like I got all past that but that didn’t work out in the end. I just ignored these bad memories since I still had feelings at that point and didn’t know what boundaries were. In the end she told me she's dating with some dude that I knew and that made me feel even worse. After that I completely broke contact with her and everyone that links me to her since having any form of contact would bring me down a spiral of negative emotions. I can say I’m doing better now fortunately! This was my first relationship ever so it was a tough pill to swallow

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u/Bnewgie 13d ago

On a US military base in Japan. She called off our wedding several years prior because she couldn’t marry someone in the military and leave her hometown. It was funny to see her married to a military guy and now stationed on the same tiny base as my family overseas.

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u/Kylearean 13d ago

Broke up with one, but she ended up marrying a guy with the same name as me, a similar career, and a similar appearance. Clearly she had a type.

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u/Arkslippy 13d ago

Walking down the street, just bumped into her as we were going into the same shop, I was the third wheel for a little while in her relationship, we met and I didn't know she was with anyone at all, found out after a few weeks she had a long-term boyfriend, since they were school kids. I was mad about her, she was outgoing and fun and i needed that, we had a thing for a short while and then she got all dramatic and broke up and I was devastated. I was a bit mopey and heartbroken for a good while and then I met my now wife and happy.

So when I bumped into her 12 years later, we recognised each other instantly even though I've lost most of my hair and had a few cakes in the meantime. She's still more or less the same, just an older version.

She made a big deal of how she's still with the guy she was cheating on with me, and showed me her kids, and how she was happily married 10 years, had a successful job and her hubby was a success. I've done well too, so we chatted about stuff for a few minutes and went our seperate ways.

A few weeks later i met our mutual friend and I said I'd bumped into her, and she told me the truth, yes Lisa was married to the same guy, but they had both had numerous affairs, one of the kids definitely wasn't his and the other was 50/50, and her husband was in trouble with the police on more that one occasion for being a little free with his hands both violently and with his female co-workers

So yeah, bullet dodged

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u/razorfloss 13d ago

Sounds like she was trying to justify her cheating lmao

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u/Arkslippy 13d ago

Nah, I think it was more she wanted to put a really positive face on for someone, so that they wouldn't think she had made a mistake, in her own mind.

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u/allesistverruckt 13d ago

camera slow mos, noises fades out, music comes in, both of you laughs

Mannn, some people may not stay in our lives, just stays in our hearts. Heartwarming story, man.

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u/CapG_13 Sup Bud? 13d ago

I actually bumped into her the other day (I actually posted something about it) and it was at the store and it caught me completely off guard and what made it even more awkward is that I was with another girl and they've NEVER liked each other. And not to mention that i felt like I did the very first time that I saw her. So It kinda brought those old feelings back but I also noticed that she started using again so that made me sad but all in all we talked for a few minutes and that was that.

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u/Vy_Canis_Mikey 13d ago Wholesome

Yes! I sort of caught a tingle of old feelings as she was standing there looking pretty much like I remember her.

It’s so odd seeing someone who is basically a stranger to you now but you used to wake up next to them for years.

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u/Inside-Example-7010 13d ago

If there's one thing I'm at odds with everyone else its this. So much pressure on meaningless emotionless sex and sometimes it seems no one has any faith in anything long term anymore.

Even when in a relationship my partner would still be telling me all these places I could go or things I could do which were essentially futures apart from them. There's me gobsmacked because I imagine my future with my partner until we arnt together, feels like people enter relationships with a countdown . But I guess I'm just the perverse strange one after all. Too much Disney as a kid perhaps.

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u/Fart_Liberator 13d ago

That was a beautiful short btw. Old flames meeting in their future. I could see it all. It seemed awkward and beautiful

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u/Sea_Lab3273 13d ago

Bittersweet

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u/Staceystallion1 13d ago

Haven't bumped into her in real life since; but she did start messaging me randomly a while ago and it was weird as fuck haha I waited so long to talk to her and realised within 5 minutes that I'm so glad it ended

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u/OmegaPraetor 13d ago

I'm hoping for the exact same thing for myself. It's been over a year. I just want to be fully free without the thoughts anymore.

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u/Staceystallion1 13d ago

This may put it somewhat into perspective for you:

My ex was the first and only woman I've ever loved. Trusted her with everything etc. She destroyed me without remorse, (more than likely cheated) and moved on immediately (one day to be exact) after almost 3 years. She found herself in a really shit situation a few months later; reached out to me despite having a current boyfriend. So you can imagine how weird that was considering this was the first time since the break up I heard from her

In essence she betrayed me for him, then tried to betray him for me. Once I called her out on it, all hell broke loose and that's when it was finally confirmed; she really was a piece of shit haha. Unfortunately it took that for me to truly realise although looking back there were an infinite amount of reasons/events that made it clear

Maybe you don't need closure by talking to them. Maybe it's a matter of reflecting and realising what's already happened. Maybe then you can be ready to understand & move past it

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u/CatDaddyJudeClaw 13d ago

I dated this girl back in HS for 9 months. We lost our virginities to each other lol. We’d bump into each other over the years partying in our early to mid 20s but haven’t seen each other for about 10 years at this point.

I went solo to a small and intimate entrepreneurial event and saw her as I took my seat. I waved at her when she looked over but she didn’t mind me. I was embarrassed and confused as we were always friendly with each other after the breakup.

She came over to say hi after the event when she noticed me. Apparently she didn’t see me earlier on lol

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u/WhiteTshirtDad 13d ago edited 13d ago

I've got a few stories but no time to type them out. Just wanted to say, I feel the tone of your post. I've been there. Let yourself feel those mixed emotions and don't hide from them. It sounds like you both have kids so I'm going to assume you're both in committed relationships. If not, forgive me, I know there are all different types of families. Anyway, rose coloured glasses are real as fuck especially after a decade. I went through this already. Don't let your mind wander too far and process the feelings. I know how jarring these experiences can be.

Edit: I know this edit is fucked up, but come to think of it. I was contacted by an ex on Facebook. We lost our virginities to each other when we were like 14. 10 years later we did that thing where we said we should meet for coffee etc. on casual FB chat while drunk or whatever. It didn't happen for years. Then we did. We are married with 3 kids now and it's going pretty great. So I don't know what to say about any of this.

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u/Psychological_Bat928 13d ago

the edit - so cute i didnt expect that lol, i think you might need to share those other few stories with us now too

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u/brawlrats 13d ago

The last two comments I have read ended with:

“He’s now in jail for murdering his roommate”

And

“Now we’re married and have three kids”

Quite the contrast.

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u/itsbikboi 13d ago

Lol good ending for you I guess

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u/MrMonopolyMan123 13d ago edited 13d ago

Ran into one at our hometown airport once. We’d been together for a year and childhood friends from school for over a decade before that- it had been two years since we’d spoken to one another after we both moved to different cities for our careers. We’d never to this day ever fought or argued.

Anyway she had seen me across the terminal and came running up to say hi and gave me a huge hug. She had the biggest smile on her face and looked the same. I was nervous and acted awkward because I was so surprised; looking back I wish I acted more relaxed in the moment, but I’d figured I’d never see her ever again after she and I had moved across the country. We talked a bit while walking to our respective gates and then said our goodbyes before boarding our planes.

We’ve tried reconnecting a couple times since then- I’d reach out to her but she wasn’t willing, she’d reach out to me but then I was not willing; our timing is terrible. I think after this last attempt to reconnect a few months ago, we’re both really moving on, as we still live across the country from one another and we’re both getting older- neither of us married or with kids. It sucks because she really does have a good soul, great personality, she was a good friend, and of course beautiful.

We haven’t seen each other in person since the airport, that was 4 years ago now.

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u/Audax2021 13d ago

I live in a small tourist town with one pizza place. One off season, my new girlfriend came to stay at my place for the weekend and we decided to have a pizza after being at the pub for a few hours (which was packed with locals).

We enter the pizza place, order at the counter and go into the back dining room. There’s a big group of people. I glance at the ones facing me as I go past - they’re not local.

Go and sit at a table with GF and I’m facing the big group and there in the middle is my ex-GF (a local) with her new BF (not a local) just staring at me with a look as if I was expected to go over and say hello. We were about 10 months past the end but it had been a messy and ugly end to a four year relationship so just seeing her put me off my yet-to-arrive pizza.

So I noped out of the back room to the front counter with my current GF who was puzzled at the abrupt change of plan and lo and behold, there in the entry is my ex-ex-GF (a local) waiting for a pick-up order.

Now, if the last break-up was ugly, this one had been a shitstorm in a phone booth. We’d got together while she was separated from her husband then didn’t tell me he’d moved back into the house ‘for the kids’ (I never went there because she didn’t want to ‘confuse’ the kids). We’d been seeing each other for about a year and had been so low key that hardly anyone had figured out we were seeing each other. But when it blew up with the live-in hubby every fucker in town had an opinion on the matter. Needless to say, I got blamed for their breakup in the first place (not true), that the youngest kid was mine (also not true), and we’d been having a three-way relationship (definitely not true - not that there’s anything wrong with that).

So the ex-ex is eyeballing me and my current GF, then starts coming over as if to chat. I turn away and fuck me if my ex isn’t standing right behind me. She starts to talk, my current GF doesn’t know what the fuck is going on and my ex-ex is bearing down from behind.

I didn’t know if they were both going to be nasty or nice so I did a double ‘talk to the hand’, asked Theo the pizza guy to deliver my pizza to my house, grabbed my GFs hand and bolted. GF was a good sport about it. But we never went out for dinner in my home town again.

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u/turnip-cupcake 12d ago Silver

That’s story was a real pizza work.

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u/Stalked_Like_Corn 13d ago

In a gas station. I was refueling on my way to see my then g/f when I was grabbing a soda in the back. I turn around and see her mingling around up front. I froze then immediately ducked down and ran around the corner and into the bathroom where I sat for 15 minutes. I came back out slowly and came out and slowly walked down the aisle looking around to make sure it was clear.

The guy at the counter was like "Hey, did you just come out of the bathroom with merchandise? You can't do that!" I apologized and explained to him. "You look too paranoid for that to be a lie".

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u/teekayjay59 13d ago Silver

He came back to the church we attended together. He later told me it was different. I said yes because we are different now.
He's currently serving time for murder for his former roommate while he was drunk.
I dodged that bullet... literally.....

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u/flyingmountainwhale 13d ago

That escalated quickly.

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u/diver_climber 13d ago

I haven't seen her since I sung at a mutual friend's wedding back in 2009.

I never want to see nor hear about her ever again especially after all the abuse she did to me.

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u/Denisimo7 13d ago

At my aunts wedding. She had a 3 year old son with her, who had exact blonde curly hair when I was 3 years old. Her kid was not my son. Her and I barely looked at each other and she left early. I had no intention speaking to her.

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u/just_some_dude828 13d ago

“Her kid was not my son.”

Upon reading this, I instantly heard the beat to Billie Jean by Michael Jackson.

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u/Denzil95 Male 13d ago

You've gotta be careful what you do, when you're running around with young girls hearts...

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u/Boomshrooom 13d ago

Wait, what? So you think someone in your family is the father?

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u/Denisimo7 13d ago

No I don’t. It was just weird coincidence. I knew who the father was.

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u/SeveralEmployer 13d ago

I hope you don’t mean your aunt was your ex

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u/Heisenbread77 13d ago

Laughs in Jon Snow

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u/giveKINDNESS 13d ago

Her date was connected to your aunt somehow? or your aunt invited her? or?

There are a few important details missing from this story.

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u/elmo_9619 13d ago

Here’s hoping I never do.

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u/thedevilsgame 13d ago

I live in a small town and I'm friends with most of my exs so I see them around a lot

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u/KoensayrMfg 13d ago

I grew up at a place like that. The all too common phrase is 'you don't lose your girlfriend you lose your turn.'

As long as it's not too messy it's not bad. Usually takes a bit of no contact to heal. Then you remember why you liked them and being friends is easy. On the plus side, you can have really insightful advice for your friend who's currently dating her. Together you're like the fucking Transformers that combine to be the super huge robot. lol

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u/thedevilsgame 13d ago

Yep and it's so weird to people that didn't grow up in small towns but seems perfectly normal to us. Lmao

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u/superfuels 13d ago

Honestly it's really healthy to learn to be okay with seeing your ex around and date other ppl. You get over yourself anx your ideals of possession pretty quick though it must be terrible if there was abuse involved.

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u/redfox2008 13d ago

would be my worse nightmare...

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u/RUUUNNN_AWAYYY 13d ago edited 13d ago Helpful Wholesome All-Seeing Upvote

At the airport I work at. I was checking ID's and boarding passes as we TSA people do, She hands me the ID (I wasn't exactly looking at her. I was in my own world lol), I looked at the name, and completely froze for about 10 seconds. I looked up to match the picture to the face and she had also frozen when she realized it was me. We hadn't seen each other for about 10 years. We caught up awkwardly at first (the line for security was backed all the way up to me so it's not like she could have moved anywhere else) and once we started to catch up she started to cry. Apparently, she was scared shitless of me back then (rightfully so) and it all came flooding back right then. after she calmed her self down we continued catching up. She was happy that I had managed to get back on my feet, get married, and hold down a decent job. She was NOT happy about who I married (one of her close friends from like Kindergarten) But she herself was with someone she was serious about and had been dating for 3 or 4 years so that was good to hear. She seemed happy and mostly at peace with what I'd done to her all those years ago. We ended our relationship with an Atom bomb. It was not a nice break up (from what I remember from back then. Things from that time are... Foggy)

Full disclosure, I was a HOT fucking mess 10 years ago. I had a gnarly Alcohol problem, and a shitty job that contributed to that, I was BEYOND emotionally abusive to her (I have no recollection of that, but the friends in our circle from back that told me I was) I drug her down so low for no reason other than to hurt her. (In one of my therapy sessions I worked out that I wanted her to stay, but since I had no way of conveying that sober I would come home from work mad, get drunk, and then just unload on her) I was mad at the world and I needed someone or something to blame. All I ever did back then was Work, Drink, and spend time basically holding her hostage. She didn't have enough self esteem left to just leave my ass. I had no control of myself and I had no one to stop me. We broke up after I went on a 2 week bender and just started rampaging. I have no details to that. I have no idea what it was that I did or said, but police were called to break it up. Never served jail time, though I probably deserved it (or so I think anyway) whatever it was. (thankfully I do know I did NOT do something irreparable to her or myself. That much was confirmed by my mom) She wouldn't talk about it after, and I never would ask her about it unless she wanted to and she felt safe enough to do so.

She did some not okay things as well, but NOTHING compared to what I did to her emotionally while we were together. Some stuff does come back to me from time to time, and weep about it. That a lie I ugly cry. I don't know how or why I was the way I was, or how I ended up that bad, but for better or worse it happened, and I have to live with that for the rest of my life.

some positives, I got sober about 2 years after our break up from a failed suicide attempt. My then gf and my mom helped me get back on my feet (literally and figuratively). I immediately quit that shit job I had after getting home from the hospital, and moved into private security (and finally moving into TSA making triple what I used to make). Got married to my wife. I'm in therapy to work through all of my shit, and have much better coping mechanisms (mainly snuggling my wife and showering her with my love and making her smile). I make every day count and make sure I'm as good of a human as I possibly can be. I can't write the wrongs of my past, but I can do better every day to outshine my past.

Through the course of our conversations, she filled me in on her life, she's in therapy, and working a super awesome job at some company affiliated with the airport I work at (small world lol). She has improved her self esteem so much that she shares her art and sells it, and does some small time modeling work. She's lost 50lb since then and makes working out one of her coping mechanisms. She dropped everyone she used to talk to from our small town (as did I for the most part). She thinks she's gonna get proposed to soon too. She's flourishing! I'm so happy for her! For obvious reasons she's keeping me and my wife blocked on SM (which is fair, but we'd never think of trying to add her anyway.)

Yesenia, if you ever read this, I'm deeply and truly sorry for what I've done. I'd completely understand if you never could forgive me. I'm happy that you're happy. Love that man with your everything and live your life to the fullest.

Sorry for the novel. Also I'm not crying like a baby right now. I swear.

Edit: thank you guys so much for your encouraging words and awards! Save your money and pay it forward! I wasn't trying to cry at work, but here I am. Crying again. Keep being the best person you can be and be well! :,)

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u/quinn288 13d ago

Good on you for focusing on the present and admitting the truth of the past.

Best of luck to you on the road to a better life.

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u/candynics 13d ago

It takes courage to admit your wrongdoings. best of luck to you sir!

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u/Icy-Entertainer-7976 13d ago

Glad you turned your life around it couldn't have been easy writing that down for all to read? Stay on the straight & narrow you're not the only one to lose their way. Not everyone finds their way back.

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u/Seamstome 13d ago

Your comment made me cry. It sounds like you are both on a good path, may you continue to heal.

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u/Zealousideal_City314 13d ago edited 13d ago

I went to the post office a few weeks ago to pay some bills,my head was stuck in my phone as I was in the cue then I heard next so I walk up head still stuck in the phone I then put it away and looked up and there was my ex behind the counter lol I nearly died I’d imagine I blushed and didn’t know what to say,next time I’ll be ready!!

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u/quirkyfail 13d ago

6 months later, at a bar. Never spent a night apart again.

We're having a kid in 5 months.

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u/Dresiden15 13d ago

Bumped into an old ex fiancée about five months ago at our local university. I was part a tour group with my daughter who was there on an official college visit.

I hadn't seen the ex in about twenty three years and it didn't end well. (She cheated and got pregnant by the father of her first child-but that's a story for another day and reddit forum) My guess was she was working there in the grounds keeping department in some capacity by what she was wearing.

We noticed each other and our eyes locked. I recognized her immediately. I think it took her a split second longer. The group was moving into the library when she walked up behind me.

"I didn't think you'd ever live long enough to see your kid go to college, let alone find someone who would have a kid with you."

I stared at her for a moment and said, "That's funny, because I don't think about you at all."

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u/Tuatha_Deohne 13d ago

I was on my way to my (now-ex) girlfriend's place of work (she was a bartender). As I got out of the subway, I recognized my surroundings, especially that one pub close by, and started feeling upset - see, 5 years ago, I'd gone on a date at that pub, and it resulted in the most toxic relationship that I've ever had.

I got on my way, trying to calm down and to focus on my then-current girlfriend. As I waited for the green light to cross the street, I noticed a silhouette on my left, and turned my head to take a quick look. And then I froze.

Either it was that very same toxic ex, now having brown hair and wearing a dress, or the poor lady looked much too similar to the most toxic woman I've ever had the misfortune to date. She noticed me looking at her, turned towards me and smiled, and I turned away from her, feeling both afraid and incredibly angry.

As soon as I could, I took off, walked away as fast as possible, didn't look back. Shook me up a bit. Told my then-girlfriend about it, she was very understanding and supportive.

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u/theoriginaldandan 13d ago

At a church service. We didn’t speak but I did have to speak to some of her family. Seeing her for the first time since we split was incredibly rough. She broke up with me the same day I had started looking at engagement rings.

Just seeing her made it to where I couldn’t eat a meal for 4 and half days. I can’t imagine how bad it’d have been to hear her talk or laugh. Full shutdown mode probably

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u/awhiteasscrack Currently Baked 13d ago

Hey man, try not to put her on a pedestal. I bet there were small things here and there that could add up to at least bring her down a notch.

Goodluck!

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u/theoriginaldandan 13d ago

There was some more stuff that made it a little harder than it would be for most. We were each other’s first boyfriend and girlfriend, first kiss etc. she was my best friend too, and since she started seeing someone else we haven’t talked at all. It’s weird being happy for her but not over her. I’m getting better though.

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u/ChokaTot 13d ago

Noticed her in the gardening center of a store. I guess her brother noticed me shortly after and confronted me. We had a quick chat about how I "used and cheated" on his sister. I couldn't believe the shit I was hearing.

I hadn't cheated on her or used her. She was an old friend from way back that I had gotten in touch with. We dated for a few months but eventually I ended things once her lies came to light. Fortunately I recorded the breakup and showed him. He left pretty quickly.

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u/elmo_9619 13d ago

What lies came to light ?

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u/ChokaTot 13d ago

While we were dating she told me everything I wanted to hear.

  • She loves the outdoors (all her free time is staying at home).

  • She frequently hikes (she likes taking scenic photos, almost zero stamina). Flat ground 1/4 mile completely out of breath walking.

  • Quite her job as a teacher to work part-time fast food which I found out later when she couldn't pay rent.

  • Said she had a vehicle (she didn't, she got rides from her mom). So I did 100% of the driving.

Each thing wasn't significant, but it was like everything she said was a lie Almost everything was a lie. I couldn't trust anything she did.

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u/elmo_9619 13d ago

Would you have described her as inherently malicious or just someone that needed to figure themselves out?

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u/Silent_Spectator_ 13d ago

We have questions. Takes out a roll of a list

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u/Draenth 13d ago

Why did you record the breakup?

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u/CeeZee2 13d ago

If he was constantly being lied to, likely so he could use it to keep his sanity from the gaslighting. Or if they were all friends with a group of people, he could show she was spouting lies so he didn't lose friends over her.

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u/Deletedreddit6times 13d ago

Yep. I recorded most interactions with my ex wife after filing for divorce. It gave me all the evidence I would ever need that she lost her shit. Compulsive liar and the worst part is I think she believed her own lies. If I presented evidence she was lying she would quickly change the subject but that wouldn't stop her from using the same lie to gaslight me from another one. It was nuts.

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u/palbuddy1234 13d ago

At a mall with my kid in a stroller. It was off at quite a distance and I was in line for a lunch spot. She nonchalantly walked over in front of us in our line, turned around, looked at me and my kid and left the line. I told my wife, we laughed about it and we've moved since.

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u/kloudrunner 13d ago

Outside a bar on Halloween dressed as The Joker. Went shit for about 20 mins. Put me in a slump. Then I ended up meeting my future wife. I didn't marry the ex lol.

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u/Pemburuh_Itu 13d ago

I panicked and ended a relationship just as it was beginning. I did it over text because I was a cowardly idiot at that age. It was 2009 and I’d been looking for work since I graduated in ‘08 with no luck at all.

A few weeks later I have a job lined up but it’s out of state, and I bump into her at the store in the middle of the night. She was drunk with her friends, out picking up late night snacks, and I was with a new lady friend getting cat food. It was awkward, the Ex’s friends took her away before it got sad but I could hear her crying later as I was checking out.

A few days later I couldn’t get her out of my head, ended whatever it was with the lady friend and asked after my ex. We danced around it for a while, but eventually she agreed to see me and I brought flowers to the show she was performing. Her folks gave me the stink eye, I sat alone and we chatted afterwards.

She ended up moving with me to the new job on very little notice and against her mom’s advisement. Now we’ve got two kids, a house and I love my mother in law. All because we both decided to break our own “no ex’s” rules.

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u/Aristaeus16 13d ago

I didn't 'bump into' him, but I got stopped behind my ex in traffic. It was the longest red light of my life. I had so much adrenaline I was just trying to look as blasé as possible; like I didn't recognize this honker of a truck stopped immediately in front of me.

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u/erazedcitizen 13d ago

Unfortunately I bumped into my ex a lot after because we were in the same friend group. It didn’t go over too well for the group.

Apparently she cheated on me during the downfall of our relationship, so already she was off to a bad start.

Then she told some of the friend group intimate details about our sex life (that they didn’t want to here) after constantly getting mad at me during our relationship whenever I made any semblance of a joke about it.

When she eventually broke up with the guy she cheated on me with, she crashed a party the rest of us were having without her (for a reason), got hella wasted and bipolar and in front of everyone gave me the most half-assed apology for how she treated me in hopes that I would forgive her and make her feel better about herself when she felt like shit. She then texted me afterwards saying “sorry if I made things awkward at the party, hopefully we can move on and still be friends” to which I said “don’t worry, it wasn’t awkward”.

I then bailed last minute on a New Years trip we planned as a group due to needing some time to myself, and she proceeded to spread rumours that I didn’t come because I couldn’t be around her without confessing my love to her again. She was also convinced that every other guy in our group, single or in relationships, was in love with her.

She was going through her diary with some of the friends in the group, and they noticed some of the entries on me basically confirmed that she only dated me to manipulate me into giving her attention and affection while she looked for an actual boyfriend.

I think I remember one of my friends mentioning she tried to accuse me of raping her as well, but that one got shut down really quick.

And the last time I saw her she unintentionally outed herself as a transphobe.

Anyways, fortunately for me, my friends got sick of her shit really quick and then I didn’t have to deal with her ever again.

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u/SLAK0TH 13d ago

Your ex sounds like one fucked up individual. Glad she’s out of your and your friends' life

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u/Young_Hxppxe Male 13d ago

WTF! I'm so glad you free from her and got the friend group, she sounds like a god-awful person.

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u/BeerSlingr 13d ago

At the bar a few years ago. She came back into my life for a while at that moment, and turns out she had become addicted to fentanyl. I woke up and she was smoking crack on my couch. We hooked up that night before obviously, but fuck I felt so much regret at that moment. She was never like that when we were together. I guess she’d lost custody of her daughter, who she had custody of when we were together. Once she left me she just spiralled. So fucking sad.

I bumped into her at a different bar a few weeks back, I was just grabbing food since I’m sober now, but she talked to me a bit. She’s quit crack, but has a healthy meth addiction now. I really hope she will be okay one day. It’s terrible to see drugs destroy people.

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u/Anne_Franks_Easybake 13d ago

I never have seen anyone that I have dated after we had broken up luckily, but I did see an exs dad and his girlfriend, he didn't see me though. I was kind of glad when I saw him because they had season tickets to a sports team and my tickets were in the same section and me and her went a lot when we were together so I knew she went often.

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u/eaglewatch1945 13d ago

"I ran into my ex-girlfriend the other day..., so I backed up and did it again." - Johnathan Ross

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u/DiamondDoge92 Sup Bud? 13d ago

Big brain moves.

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u/Yazein 13d ago

I am married to my first gf/wife, so I also dont know how it should feel.

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u/Barely-Funny 13d ago

You don't have to show off man

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u/xionuk 13d ago

I mean, she’s not your girlfriend anymore, she’s your wife - so you have an ex-girlfriend! o/

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u/nopants_ranchdance 13d ago

At work yesterday morning, we are in the same company but different departments so rarely see each other or interact. Was pleasant, we’ve both gotten married and my wife and I are expecting which she heard through the grapevine, her and her husband built a house which I heard through the grapevine. So we congratulated each other, talked about meeting for a coffee some afternoon which will probably never materialize and that’s fine.

Walking away I was able to healthily admit: she’s a very attractive woman, and can be quite pleasant to be around, but we are both much better off now. Sorry for the mixed emotions OP. A couple years ago the interaction would have carried more baggage for as well.

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u/nopants_ranchdance 13d ago

Attractive as in pretty, not as in attractive partner. There’s nothing I would ever want from her. Totally in love with my wife. It was more a benign polite suggestion than anything, and it would be in the office canteen. However, I have no intent to follow up on it.

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u/BiggieAndTheStooges 13d ago

She came to visit me from Norway with her boyfriend at the time. We all had a blast!

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u/dolinputin 13d ago

Saw her at a bar after breaking up with her (She was convinced I was cheating on her and I got sick of the baseless accusations). I tried to walk past her without saying anything hoping she didn't notice and she threw her drink on me. Went to a bouncer and got her kicked out.

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u/Ok_Animal3005 13d ago

Unfortunately every week when the kids get handed over…

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u/mildlycuriouss Female 13d ago Silver

Honestly, that’s such a beautiful meeting meant to happen the right way like how it did for you. Mistakes made and lessons learnt years later when you both are older and wiser, it just seems like it is right to meet this way and maybe actually get some form of closure you never knew you might have needed? That’s how this story feels like to me.

As people, we learn things out of relationships either during or years later. I truly hope you take this as a sign for you to acquire some peace whether you think you needed it or not, you both seem to have aged gracefully from what you were before to each other. Life happened to you two. I respect both of you. Don’t take these mixed feelings for hopefully anything negative, things happen to us for a reason, it’s my life moto. And it’s always helped me in times of confusion.

Wishing you best of luck!

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u/hogey74 13d ago

I stopped being with my ex GFs for good reasons. Mostly we're still in touch. But reading this makes me think exes could be like a song you loved at a time in your life. Then later there is fondness but maybe it is more for that time, rather than the song itself.

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u/PRA421369 13d ago

She came over for a cuppa and a smoke a couple of days ago. But we had a "good" breakup about 10 years ago and she's friends with my girlfriend. So more like one of my girlfriends friends coming over than an ex.

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u/jennftw 13d ago

200 miles away/different state from where either of us lived. Was arm-in-arm with my boyfriend at the time. Rounded a corner and we VERY literally stumbled into my high school ex, who I hadn’t seen in 6 years. Shock is an understatement; truly shook me to the core.

It was actually a blessing though. High school ex was diagnosed with a brain tumor shortly after that and passed away. I’m glad I had the opportunity to get on good terms & wish him well before that happened. He said it brought him a lot of peace of mind too.

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u/ocelotrevs 13d ago

Some point in the last couple of years, I was walking through the old retail park where I met my first girlfriend, and where both used to work.

I saw her, and I recognised her, but I kept walking. There is no ill feelings on my end. But it's been nearly 15 years since I saw her, I didn't see the point of stopping for a chat.

Last year I met up and went roller skating with my most recent ex. My current girlfriend thought the entire thing was funny, going on a date with my ex girlfriend.

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u/Boertie 13d ago

Nothing, I have no grudges or regrets. I say hi, if she wants to small talk, I'll talk. Regardless of what happened in the past.

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u/throwawaydkdkdkssa 13d ago

This post makes me want to cry. The last time I saw my ex, they were driving past my house 2 times (in about 30 min) about 8 months after we broke up, committed suicide a few weeks later. i’ll never know what they had to say to me.

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u/evo784crip 13d ago edited 13d ago

my workplace. myboss who knows us in the past as lovers. hired her into the company even if i am already working for him. the worst thing is, he also hired my current gf (way before hiring the ex) . he hired my ex as a manager above my current gf. my gf got insecured and it created alot of problems between us. we ended up breaking up. the 1st ex left eventually. but not after ruining my current relationship. my boss knew what he was doing. the other managers were warning him that if he hired my ex, there will be conflicts between me and my then- current gf.

He still decided to hire my ex. he kept all of it secret and told everyone not to tell me until the very last minute (he informed me out of the blue. "oh i hired your ex. its ok right?")

what a fucking prick.

i dont want to shit on any religion. but im highly disappoint with this self proclaimed "Christian" man. he doesnt even have an ounce of empathy. needless to say, all of his business went bankrupt during pandemic. i guess karma is real.

my now, latest ex. hates me to the gut. left me during the start of pandemic lockdown. i hate myself for bringing her to that companym i blame myself for everything. 3 years on, still having nightmares with what happened

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u/Superflypete 13d ago

I dated a girl for a year, and she was a stalker. Like batshit crazy. I called her and said it was over and then left the town and moved 2 hours away. Two months later I’m washing my car, and I hear her voice screaming my name loudly. I look up and she’s hanging out the side of the window in her crazy, hillbilly fuck parents’ car. She jumps out and runs over at me and starts screaming about how I broke her heart and how it’s fucked up that I never told her why, etc. At this point every eye on the street is on this scene.

She whips up her skirt, no drawers on beneath, and waves her freshly shorn beev at me and says “oh you’re gonna miss this”. I laughed and said, “This. This is why I left town.”

Within hours every god damned girl in this town of 3000 was asking about me. There might as well have been a line outside my door. So, thanks, M, because I met my wife of 28 years later that month.

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u/BlueMountainDace Male 13d ago

I bumped into my Ex at my parent’s house. The weekend before she’d called me 15 times drunk trying to meet up and I’d refused cause she’d said some really uncharitable things about my now wife.

Went to my Dad’s house and was hanging out when I heard the doorbell ring. It was her. Apparently she’d called my dad and said I knew she was coming and my dad assumed she was telling the truth.

She then hung out at my house for almost an hour trying to get me to touch her breast after telling me she’d had implants put in and I should feel them.

Thankfully she left quickly. Very weird.

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u/karateninjazombie 13d ago

Had a 5 year relationship. Bumped Into her and the guy she got with less than 3 months and married 2 years later after leaving me in the local supermarket.

It be late 2020 so full masks on in shops still. I turned into the top of an aisle to get milk. They were there with a trolley and she looked at me, panicked and literally ran down the entire length of the aisle away from me and took a turn at the bottom and vanished.

He casually turned the trolly round and walked after her taking his phone out to call her.

I just stood there with the loaf of bread dumbfounded.

I've not seen them since. So can only assume they order online now Instead.

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u/heych1995 13d ago

I pray to god I never do.

I’ve got so much unprocessed trauma from my last breakup that I wouldn’t know how to act

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u/An_Anonymous_Acc 13d ago Silver

Just say "no time to talk, my monkey needs new shoes" and walk away

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u/Meditative_Rose78 13d ago

In a parking lot coming out of a restaurant. We locked eyes and I was ready to give him a piece of my mind but he scurried out of there so quickly while pulling his girlfriend along by the arm and took off in his car. We had been broken up for a few years already when he decided to break into my parents’ home, steal their safe with jewelry and checks. He then proceeded to steal my cousin’s car which he was caught in after a high speed chase with the police. So yeah, I wanted to yell at him for that but the jerk got away from me. 😖

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