[MINI FAQ] Do I have to be a woman to participate here? What about the subreddit name? What about trans women? What are the rules, anyway?
Do I have to be a woman to participate in this community?
No. Any user who can follow the rules is welcome here. Women, men, nonbinary, agender, genderqueer, cis folks and trans folks, everybody. If you're not on board with that, you can fuck right off.
But what about the subreddit name?
Read this post from when 2XC was only a month old. We haven't changed our stance since then, and never will.
What about trans women?
Trans women are women. TERFS can fuck right off.
What are the rules, anyway?
TL;DR: Keep it civil, keep it relevant. Don't start shit, won't be shit.
You can find the rules in the sidebar (community info for mobile users), or here's a direct link: 2XC Rules
Most moderator actions are the result of users breaking Rule 1: RESPECT. If you keep Wheaton's Law* in mind and participate in good faith, you'll probably never hear from the mod team.
*Wheaton's Law: Don't be a dick.
For more in-depth interpretations of the rules above, see the 2XC FAQ and 2XC Moderation Policy.
A jury can refuse to find a person guilty through jury nullification, even if that person is technically guilty of the charge against them. If you find yourself on a jury with charges that you feel are unjust, you can use this.
The court will not tell you about it and try to persuade you away from using it if you mention it. The lawyers are not allowed to tell you about it. If you mention it during jury selection, you would likely be released.
EDIT: I am not a lawyer. I offer no legal advice. This link that was posted below has good info on it: https://fija.org/
People who want to go back to the 50s so bad should also be banished to eating the food from that era
Enjoy your bananas with ham slices and hollandaise, and pears with mayonnaise you freaks.
TW: very sensitive content. I'm so frustrated as an Arab Feminist . In less than 24 hours, we had a woman that was slaughtered in the street by a man she rejected in Egypt. We had another woman who got shot by a man she rejected in Jordan. A girl that was abused and dragged out of her school by her father and uncle. A woman that was stabbed 15 times by her husband when she asked for a divorce. And the list go on. Yet, absolutely no one is talking about what's happening to Arab and Middle Eastern women. Not a single feminist global page. I know I shouldn’t be waiting for others to talk about the cases that are happening in my country but they’re not just local random cases it’s violence against woman. Also, I do talk about it everywhere but I don’t have a big platform and would love to see a bigger platform talking about what’s happening in Arab counties especially when they call themselves “intercessional feminists” every feminist is intercessional feminist till it comes to the 3d world countries or the middle east.
I (F/29) was beaten, raped, stabbed, and left for dead a few years ago. One of the ways I repay the love and support I needed to survive, recover, and thrive is by volunteering at a rape crisis center. I live in a blue state, but many of the calls we receive are from red states.
I received a call from a 15-year-old girl who was 2 weeks late after being raped by her uncle after babysitting for him. Her pregnancy test was positive. She is in a red state with triggered anti-abortion laws, even in cases of the rape of a minor. She had hoped to get Plan B, but it is no longer available locally, even by prescription. The nearest state where it is available is over 450 miles away. She can not discuss the problem with her mother because she is a pro-life activist. Black market Plan B has tripled in price to almost $500 US in her area in the last week. She is talented in music and was hoping to go to university. The advice she's heard her mother and friends give to girls in similar positions is: "God has chosen His path for you. Accept it with thanks."
This fight is not about "abortion". It is about so, so much more. If I send her the money she needs, I can be accused of contributing to the delinquency of a minor at the very least and most likely, manslaughter for the death of the "baby". I know what I did. What would you do?
Age 16: first time having sex, condom came off. Didn't have access to morning after pill. Period was six weeks late and my mother made sure that I knew that if I was pregnant I could come to her to get the best medical care possible. No back alley abortion. Finally, after 6 agonizing weeks, super heavy period. Did I miscarry? Who knows. I was only sixteen and had no idea. I would 100% have had an abortion if pregnant.
Age 18: raped and period was 4 weeks late. Those were probably the longest 4 weeks of my life. I would 100% have had an abortion if pregnant.
Age 26: went off the pill in anticipation of my soon to finalize divorce. Had one last pity fuck and regretted it for the next month keeping fingers crossed that I wasn't pregnant. I would 100% have had an abortion if pregnant.
Age 29: Soon to be new husband and I had a condom mishap. I would 100% have had an abortion if pregnant.
Age 31: had a miscarriage of a very wanted pregnancy. I would 100% have had a D&C (abortion) if my body hadn't expelled the fetus fully, or you know, I could have chosen to die.
It's not always about the abortions we've had. It's also about the abortions WE COULD HAVE HAD IF NEEDED OR CHOSEN.
I'm sorry but yes they are. If you don't see women as fully realized human beings capable of making their own life and medical decisions, you are a bad person and I have zero sympathy or patience for you. Misogynistic incels? Bad people. Religious nut jobs that only think women exist as baby incubators and care takers of grown men? Bad people. Apathetic boyfriends and husbands that can't muster an ounce of sympathy for their wives, daughters, sisters, or friends? Bad people. You can make all the excuses you want for them but good people care about human rights. Sorry for the rant but I'm just so done with these people.
If there are no more abortions, that means that every single time an American man has sex with a woman, he is promising that he is ready, willing and able to be a father in 9 months.
I was just playing a game with a bunch of random people and it was super fun, but as soon as they realized my voice was a woman’s voice, they started talking about me rather than TO me.
At first they would refer to me by my gamer tag, but as soon as I started talking more, they became silent.
Then, instead of talking to me directly about the game, they referred to me as “the girl,” and wouldn’t talk TO ME. When I spoke up they kept saying “she’s mad we called her a girl.” Like, nah, I’m mad because you now know I’m a girl and started treating me like I’m not a real person.
I guess I’m at least glad it wasn’t the usual routine of men realizing I’m a woman and then explaining how to play the game the entire time.
I’m so pissed. I just want to play like anyone else! Typing to communicate is okay, but soooo annoying when the games get tough. I don’t want to be silenced while gaming, but this is so frustrating and I don’t know what else to do!
I’m originally from a conservative Catholic small town. This means I’m unfortunately familiar with how they think and what they want.
“Annie” is a girl I went to school with. Good grades, went to church, her boyfriend went to the same church and lived a few blocks away. They’d been dating over a year. She told me one day, crying, that she was pregnant. It seemed so shocking. She told me, barely wanting to say the words, that she intended to end it. Her dream was to go university. Annie said she was going to tell “Billy” after school, and ask him to help pay for an abortion.
I saw her on Monday, and she looked awful. When I asked what happened, she told me Billy had come by with his parents on Saturday. He’d proposed in front of them all and “accidentally” revealed her pregnancy. Her parents would disown her for an abortion, so she was effectively trapped.
Annie had to marry Billy just after her 18th birthday. She had the baby a few months later. Never went to university. Had 2 more as the years went by. Until one day she dropped off her kids with her parents, saying she had to run errands. Then she drove off a cliff in the middle of the day. It was ruled an accident. The autopsy revealed no alcohol… but that she was pregnant again.
I believe this is the future they want for us. A boy picks a girl. And he can burn any dreams or opportunities she has to the fucking ground to get the wife and family he wants.
Repealing Roe v. Wade is about making poor people poorer and putting more women into poverty. People in poverty are easier to control. Wealthy conservatives are still going to be paying for abortions.
To be fair, I've already put in my notice, but it isn't up until July 8. My coworker (F) that I share a space with is Pro-Life and I (M) am Pro-choice. We had a discussion about it months ago. She made her argument, I made mine and it seemed to be a conversation of disagreement but understanding of the other person's view points... you know... rational.
Well, in light of events Friday, she made it a point to walk over to my area and brag about how the overturning of Roe V Wade was a victory "for the babies". I didn't respond. I posted some things on social media over the weekend just showing how women were scared to have sex with their spouses in the event that they get pregnant and something goes wrong which was met mostly with concern and support for these women.
Then my coworker comes in and says "Best advice, if you're not sure, don't try." So I'm concerned I'm going to have to spend my next 2 weeks here listening to her gloat about her pro-life victory and I think I'm just say fuck it and quit.
I mean this with all due disrespect: if your male relative is a sex offender or abuser and you defend him, make excuses, enable him or make life harder for his victims and collateral victims, you are not a feminist.
My sister just suffered an ectopic pregnancy. I feel guilty for being thankful that it happened before her state banned abortion.
Yesterday my pregnant sister was rushed to the ER with excruciating pain. She was 7 weeks pregnant. Once they realized she had an ectopic pregnancy, the doctors gave her the medicine to stop it. Luckily, my sister is fine, nothing ruptured. I am sad but also livid - what if this happened four weeks later? What if the doctors didn’t give her the proper care, so my sister had to endure the pain and potentially put her life at risk? What if it causes her to never have children again? All because of the Supreme Court’s fucked up decision to overturn Roe v Wade.
Thomas, Kavanaugh, Gorsuch, Roberts, Barrett, Alito -
I wanted kids for most of my life, but the past few years I’ve been leaning towards no.
But that choice was taken from me. I don’t live in a protected state. Getting pregnant is too risky now. I no longer have that option because it is not a safe one. I saw a TikTok where women were leaving comments mourning the children they wanted and their names. That broke me and I’m sobbing. Not only do pregnant people no longer have the choice to abort widely, but a lot of us now also don’t have the choice of trying TO have a baby because it could end in death or arrest. Also- I don’t want to bring a baby, especially a daughter, into this world. I want to scream. I’m just so angry and filled with grief. I’m sorry if some of this isn’t very coherent, I’m distraught and exhausted.
Edit: thanks for the DM saying I was crying because I’m a “hysterical dipshit”. Have the day you deserve.
In light of the Supreme Court's recent decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, I just want to say that I think we should take it a step further and restrict access to cancer treatments for women too! Because if you think about it, cancer is just an innocent clump of cells in a woman's body that deserves a chance at life! Plus, women need to be held responsible for their actions. Women will go out in the sun, smoke cigarettes, or have breasts, 3 things KNOWN to cause cancer, and then be shocked when they get cancer and need to seek treatment for it! It's truly despicable, we need to put a stop to this immediately. /s
Edit: I want to clarify that this post out was written out of anger as a way to point out the ridiculous logic that pro-lifers have when it comes to denying women healthcare. Abortion is healthcare. I am extremely saddened to hear that this is a reality many pregnant women are facing. This post was not at all intended to make light of their situation.
A Vancouver police officer killed herself after intimate relationships with superiors. Now her family is suing, claiming that her superiors and other officers sexually harassed, sexually assaulted and intimidated Chan using their rank while she was employed as a junior officervancouversun.com
The right wants to force us to take care of the mentally unwell men they created. Women are seen as free range to be raped, forced to carry a child, then forced to let rapist have parental rights.
We are their vehicles. We are not their partners. Our job is to be caretakers of everything. Not to mention the legilsator let this fucking thing happen. How did they not fix this and make the right to an abortion a true amendement. Oh bc it can be more theater and more ways to control the public. My heart is breaking.
People posting on their personal social media accounts that they will help you "go camping" if you need an out-of-state abortion is the most infuriating, idiotic widespread slacktivism I've seen in my life.
“If you are a person who suddenly finds yourself with a need to go camping in another state friendly towards camping, just know that I will happily drive you, support you, and not talk about the camping trip to anyone ever.”
- If you ever get caught aiding and abetting interstate abortion, your social media posts will be damning evidence. You've already set yourself (and the people you help) up to be caught. Delete it. You might now actually be disqualified from providing help because you've already implicated yourself. Harriet Tubman didn't go ringing a bell in the town square offering to traffic enslaved people to freedom. Kind Germans didn't put up local ads offering to hide Jewish people in their attics. KEEP IT ON THE DOWN LOW. You might not be prosecuted in your blue state, but once the person you helped goes back to their red state, your bragging might be damning evidence to convict them.
- Do you really think you're making a difference by advertising your willingness to help your very limited social media audience?
- The people who are going to need help the most as a result of the overturn of Roe vs. Wade are not going to be people that the average American would want to associate with. Once people have to start helping others unlike themselves, their goodwill is likely to dry up. Example: who actually wants to host a drug-addicted prostitute with a felony record and schizophrenia in their homes and drive them to abortion appointments for nothing in return? How many people are willing to and capable of giving that person the help they need? The help will likely not cross over racial or social/class lines, leaving the most vulnerable groups with the least resources in the exact same spot. These women won't likely even KNOW how to get an internet stranger to help them. But sure, be so proud of yourself that you're willing to help people just like you.
- I highly doubt many of the people who say they'll help actually will help once they realize they're not going to get social media likes for breaking the law.
- There are established organizations to join that act as matchmakers/databases for people willing to help and people who need help. Join one of those if you're serious.
- Help women in your communities first. The fewer unintended pregnancies we have, the less we need abortions. Unintended pregnancy could be reduced significantly if we showed true commitment to comprehensive sexuality education that includes medically accurate information about abstinence and contraception, insurance coverage of and public funding for family planning services, greater access to emergency contraception, and programs that curb domestic violence and sexual abuse.
- VOTE. Get active in local politics. Help turn your state blue if it's red.
I broke down crying during church today, and I don't know if I have any faith left in this country, or people in general.
I'm just disappointed, furious and depressed. My pastor decided to talk briefly on stage about Roe v Wade outcome. He is pro-life and believes this is such wonderful news to hear. I hear a few other men in the chapel raise their voice saying, "Amen," in approval.
Women are having their rights taken away from them and people cheer. I don't ever plan on having children, and I am just upset.
It feels like I have just lost my love for god, and others here at church and I need to step away from the church for now.
And it felt good to do -something- in a blood red state!
I protested with a small group during the lunch hour outside of my county courthouse! And I made a friend, so this was a great Monday!
We’ve only been together for a couple of months, but we’ve known each other for years before this. When the Draft came out, I tried to talk to him and encourage him to get more into politics as he’s someone who’s stayed out of them his entire life, but he just didn’t get it. We’d joke about how I’m his liberal girlfriend and how he’s my conservative boyfriend, but I never thought I could date anyone who actually was a republican. Now that Roe has been overturned though, I’m furious. I’ve been attending rallies, donating, trying to volunteer, and my boyfriend is trying to form an opinion on where he should stand. It hurts to see that he’s not outraged like I am. He only really thinks it’s shocking that there’s a lack of exceptions for extreme cases like incest. It’s just really upsetting that we live in a time where I’m even having to consider breaking up with him over this, because I think he’s a great guy, but he’s too worried about losing people he cares for that would object to whatever opinion he forms.
EDIT: sorry, I need to attend my lecture rn, so I can’t respond to any individual comments. But thanks to everyone for the advice and support. He’s never really been someone who’s outwardly republican, he mostly prefers to stay out of anything political and doesn’t really want to label himself as any side. He doesn’t marginalize, and for the most part, I’d say he’s pretty progressive in his support for certain things as most of our friend group is POC or LGBTQIA+. It’s just, the decision made me realize I really didn’t know where he sat on this issue, and his complacency and utter lack of understanding started to become frustrating. He’s on a trip at the moment, planning to return soon, so I wanted to get my thoughts about this in line before he returns. He’s not someone who, even if I convince him to support abortion, would ever advocate for it or join me in rallies or the such even when we live in Texas where it’s needed right now. So, I think that’s just starting to frustrate me. So thank you to everyone here who’s been a big help right now, he’s my first serious relationship, so I think I had been willing to turn an eye to things that would normally upset me, and y’all have made me realize this.
They can empathize but not ever fully know how pregnancy feels, so how can they have an opinion on something that will never affect them physically and emotionally the way it does to women? I’m just tired of clicking a post about abortion rights and seeing the comments defending the decision because of “morals.” I don’t care if it goes against your morals because you will never be affected by it in a way that alters your body and life forever.