Jan 14 '22
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Read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft (pdf). It gave me a lot of insight into what abusive men are and how they work. What you described is exactly what the book talks about. He gaslights you, blames you for his abuse, tries to sell you the myth of “I got so mad I lost control”. It’s all complete bullshit. If he really lost control why isn’t he assaulting his boss or breaking his own things? Nah it’s all very controlled to be directed at you. Thank your neighbors and RUN.