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u/SeaDots Jan 14 '22 Silver

The fact he didn't kill her the last time was just luck and chance. Everytime you violently choke someone in a rage, death is a very realistic outcome.


u/goldenbugreaction Jan 15 '22 edited Jan 15 '22 Silver All-Seeing Upvote This Doom

The second someone puts their hands around an intimate partner’s neck, the odds of that person eventually following through with murder go up 7x.

— Edit: to the people asking to clarify if that’s between intimate partner/domestic violence or consensual rough play…either read the link or read the room.

Edit 2: since this has a little attention, here’s a free PDF of “Why Does He Do That?” by Frank Lundy. If your partner is abusive, get out as soon as you safely can. If there’s uncertainty about either one, I promise this will help.


u/waifuiswatching Jan 15 '22

I learned about this statistic several years ago, shortly after my friend told me her husband pinned her against the wall and "lightly choked" her (she could breathe but couldn't speak clearly). I begged her to leave him as this was not the first, second, or ninth time he had been violent towards her. She is still with him and he choked her so badly a year ago she had bruises on her neck for two weeks. She still won't leave. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid he'll kill her within the next three years based off his past escalation patterns.