r/TwoXChromosomes Jan 14 '22

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u/emmaontoast Jan 14 '22

Oh dear, I've been there. It's hard not to feel at fault but please believe it IS NOT YOUR FAULT. He shouldn't have become physical with you in any way, shape or form just because he got angry. His anger has nothing to do with you. He is a grown man,not a 5 year old kid, he cannot blame his anger issues or his violence on anyone but himself. This is a textbook abuser. Their reactions are disproportionate to the situation, then they blame you for it, then they will build you back up with apologies, caring behavior, etc. But it never plateaus, never gets better, it only worsens.