r/TwoXChromosomes Jan 14 '22

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u/YouStupidBench Jan 14 '22

> it was all my fault for getting him mad

Anyone who says this about violence is an abuser, and will never stop abusing you for as long as you put up with it.

Get your stuff and get out. If the police ask whether you want to press charges, the answer is YES. He needs serious help because he has a serious problem, and he's not going to get help until someone makes him.

In some cases like this, the violent person agrees to plead guilty in exchange for no jail time and undergoing court-ordered anger management therapy. Your boyfriend, who is now your EX-boyfriend, needs that kind of therapy. He probably doesn't want to lose control of himself, and he doesn't want to end up in huge trouble a year from now after he murders his next girlfriend, but he's not likely to get therapy unless a judge makes him do it.