r/TwoXChromosomes Jan 14 '22

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u/Laszerus Jan 14 '22 edited Jan 14 '22

Let me provide some perspective that might help.

My step-father is a piece of shit. He beat me up when I was about 8 years old (because I did something to annoy him, like 8 year olds do). My Mom didn't leave him then. Later on he hurt her too, tried to choke her to death with a belt from a robe before coming to his senses. There were other incidents as well.

My mom, who is a therapist ffs, continues to stay with this man. He's apparently calmed down in his old age and doesn't do these things anymore, and my Mom keeps trying to repair our relationship... but I will never, ever, forgive him for what he did to my Mom.

Imagine this guy was doing it to your Mom, would you forgive him? It doesn't matter if he's otherwise a good guy and means well, he could kill you, you just can't risk it. He needs to fix himself on his own time, not while putting you at risk.

Edit: fixed father on law mistake

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u/frogminute Jan 14 '22

You mean stepfather, right?

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u/Laszerus Jan 14 '22

Derp..yup. thanks!