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Support /r/all Found out I’m pregnant and it’s already too late.


I’m barely six weeks. I average five weeks between my periods. As soon as I saw the positive on the test, Texas had already decided for me. When this law passed last September, I naively thought there was still a very small window if I was faced with an unplanned pregnancy. There’s not, I don’t get to decide.

I already have a toddler. I also take care of my dad, who’s starting chemo next week. So between all of that, I have to fly to another state to have an abortion. I can’t tell my boss why I’m leaving either because he would have the right to sue me. For no less than $10,000.

I’m so fucking angry. Dead people have more rights than women in Texas. And these pro life assholes pretend they give a shit about babies, but they don’t. They care even less about me.

I’m just grateful I can travel to have this done. How many other women can’t or couldn’t and now their lives are forever altered? And now that Roe v Wade is about to be overturned, more women will also have their rights taken from them.

EDIT: I have found a solution. I appreciate all the resources y’all provided and everyone who offered me their home, a ride, or anything else. I’m truly so grateful.

EDIT 2: I appreciate everyone suggesting I delete the post to protect myself. I’m not deleting it. But sigh for legal reasons no one assisted me in obtaining an abortion. And if I have/had one, it was legal. Okay thank you.

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Support /r/all Boyfriend broke up with me after 7 years together…


Because I’m not “house-wifey” enough for him. I work a full-time job with an hour long commute and wake up at 4:30 every morning, and he works at home. He is upset that I don’t come home after work and cook a meal for him that’s big enough to also have leftovers that he can then eat the next day for lunch. Mind you, he always just eats frozen meals for lunch because he can’t be bothered to cook for himself.

He had the audacity to tell me that I should just put a pot roast in a crock pot before I leave for work at 5am, then he can be home to make sure it doesn’t burn (literally meaning make sure the house doesn’t catch fire, not actually checking the food temperature). Like WHAT!? Put the damn thing in yourself if you think it’s not that big a deal!!

He grew up in a different country with a different culture, where his mom and dad both worked full time, but his mom still cooked for the entire family of 7, so he doesn’t understand how I can’t just do it for the 2 of us. I had to be the one to remind him that he also had TWO LIVE-IN housekeepers/maids AND his mom worked from home.

While I don’t disagree that someone should definitely be cooking and it’s not healthy or financially wise to order out every night, why is it my sole responsibility? Oh, right, because I’m a woman…

Anyway, I’m now sitting on my brand new bed that I built myself, in my new gorgeous townhome, not having shed a tear this entire time, wondering why I just didn’t do this sooner myself!

I refuse to apologize for being a career-oriented woman, and not living up to societies roles for me. Now I’m going to cook for myself because I WANT TO, not because I need to fulfill my “womanly duties” for a man that doesn’t respect my value or needs.

Update thank you everyone for all your kind words and rewards! The first time I have cried during this whole ordeal was last night, but they were happy tears and laughter from reading all your comments! All your words just reiterated to me that this transition is going to be so good for me! I have added some new red flags to my partner search, but right now it’s time to focus on ME. I will cook that damn pot roast for myself and enjoy every mouthful!!

Also, my new townhouse is only 8 minutes away from my work. So there’s another added bonus!

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Support /r/all My fiance flirted with his baby mama all night, right in front of me


Long story short, met a guy three years ago and he was estranged from his ex. He has two daughters (8 and 5 years old). We've had our ups and downs but I (was) 100% committed to co-parenting with his ex for the kids. She's been very nice to me and we can talk with no awkwardness or anything.

We had them over their thanksgiving break in 2021 and it was awesome. This weekend we go to do a sleepover at baby mamas house which he seemed really nervous about for some reason all circling around the baby mama and not even the kids. Later that night Im coming back to the kitchen from the bathroom hearing him say "You look amazing. I wish I was still here." They proceeded to flirt with each other in earshot of me for another hour and a half.

Most awkward moment of my life. Not only was she trying to be nice to me the whole night, there ended up being no conversation they were having that I could be apart of after that, it's like I wasn't there. Again, mortifyingly awkward. We were all pretty drunk but I just went and hung out with the kids until midnight. We went to see the kids and he ended up talking with her the entire night after cooking dinner. I spent more time with the kids than he did.

After last night I decided that this relationship is 100% over. We've had our ups and downs but this was the biggest slap in the face I've ever had from him. I can't really emotionally do this kind of thing, especially since my bf is a combat veteran and he can be emotionally volitile to me. Just the other day he told me he hates me when our fuel pump went out on our car (very classic example of his emotional scale). Hearing him be really nice to her all night just put everything into perspective about how he treats me and how honestly kind of fake he is.

Maybe they can get back together and be happy, which is no issue to me, I just want the best for everyone after last night. Especially the kiddos.

I posted this in another sub but I feel this one is more appropriate. I feel so embarrassed, sad, angry and hurt by his actions. He wont change and I'm understanding how much of a bullet Im doging. I almost committed to someone who will never respect me.I just really needed to vent and talk about this with my reddit fam.

Update: we finally left and I blew up the second we were in the car, a mix of being mad and crying because it hurts in a lot of different ways. He said he was "just trying to be nice". I instantly called his BS, and I said no you were flirting and gave plenty of examples and explained buying $80 worth of steaks was "nice" and us driving three hours being there for the KIDS was "nice". I don't think that he thought I could hear him last night, which shows how drunk he was and also how self absorbed he really is. I didn't even mention how I'm planning on leaving him. He got really quiet when I pointed out how I spent more time with his kids then he even did last night. Most solidifying part for me is he didn't even apologize or directly DENY flirting with her. I guess I'm glad this happened before we tied the knot or most likely I'd end up just like baby mama.

r/TwoXChromosomes Jan 06 '22 Silver Helpful Wholesome Coin Gift Take My Energy

Support /r/all A guy declined sex because I don’t shave down there, feeling a bit sad and self-conscious now


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Support /r/all Husband "forgot" to tell me his mother is a paedophile.


There are now concerns that something may have happened to my very young daughter after coming home from a visit with my in-laws. When I told my husband that I found blood in her panties, he told me to take her to the doctor in the morning. After a physical and blood work, it was concluded that there was no infection and the blood was from physical trauma. I brought her to my husband at work (he wasn't there the night before or that day because he is a firefighter and was working a 48hr shift) and told him the doctor was concerned about sexual trauma and asked if there was anyone in his family that we should be worried about, he told me that his brother and sister both made allegations of sexual abuse against his mother when they were teenagers (now in their late 20s), that the abuse occured when they were roughly 3-7 years old, and that he simply "forgot" to tell me. I cannot even wrap my head around this. How does someone forget something like this? How does someone not immediately tell a potential partner (I was a single mom with 2 children when we started dating, he has since adopted both of them) before allowing very young children around this person? I can never trust him again. I cannot trust his judgement. I feel like I've failed my children as a mother. I'm beside myself with grief over what may have happened to my daughter and the shambles that my marriage has become overnight. I wish I could go back. Things will never be the same. And the thought of navigating the world as a a single woman with children and no support system is absolutely terrifying.

TL;DR- daughter may have been molested by MIL. Since this concern has come to light, husband just now told me that he "forgot" to tell me that two of his siblings accused MIL of molesting them as young children. I'm distraught.

ETA: (Because I'm tired of being fussed at by people who won't bother to read any of my comments), To clarify- I brought her home late that night and noticed the blood as I was getting her jammies on before putting her in bed. I took her the very next morning to the pediatrician for evaluation. Upon his recommendation, I took her that afternoon to a SANE nurse for a recorded exam in Atlanta. That evening I called both law enforcement and DFCS to make my reports. I brought the SANE recording and the clothes she was wearing as evidence to the sheriff's office the very next day and met with a special victims investigator to open a case. I also met with the DFCS case worker that day and reported everything and opened a case with them. We took her to a forensic interview completed by a child psychologist by the end of the week and she has since been put into therapy. And obviously, she has had no further contact with any of my husband's family, especially his mother. No physical, no phone calls, nothing. Please stop telling me to do these things and telling me I'm a horrible mother for not. I've done them. ASAP. I'm doing everything I can, and drowning while doing it. Give me a break.

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Support /r/all UPDATE to “Why am I still dating this mother fucking asshole” I kept dating him. Then I got punched in the face. Don’t be me.



So even though I got amazing advice from all of you, and I even DID dump him, I came back. Kept seeing the guy. And honestly he was the same asshole but seemed to be getting a bit better. Until tonight.

I invited him over. The end of my marriage came up. He again said I have no idea what commitment is. I didn’t even argue with that. Then he took my glasses off and punched me in the nose. I was in shock. He said I deserved it for “not listening” so I tried to explain myself, then he took my glasses off again and slapped me across the face. At this point my common sense kicked in and I screamed at him to not touch me and to leave. He said fine. So I called him a cab. Then he started sobbing and said he couldn’t afford it so I drove him home, at 4am, while he told me I deserved what he did and I’m overreacting and all he did was try and help me and it’s all my fault.

My nose hurts. I’m such a fucking idiot. Please, don’t be me. When someone shows you who they are, believe it. Value yourself. I plan on doing that going forward.

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Support /r/all Today I found learn my unborn child probably has down syndrome.


Two months ago I became unexpectedly pregnant. Despite being on birth control and despite the fact that I am 41 years old.

To be honest it was a shock, my S/O and I have a 2.5 year old daughter and honestly thought a second child wouldn't be in our future. Its not that we didn't want one but given my age and our financial situation it seemed best to be happy with our beautiful daughter.

When my period didn't come, I honestly thought I might be starting menopause early. When my pregnancy test showed positive I had so many mixed emotions both happy and scared. In the end, we decided we could make it work and we would love another child and a sibling for our daughter.

Because of my age, my ob suggested I do genetic testing to screen for potential problems. Yesterday I got the call that my baby has a 90% chance of down syndrome. Also that the baby was a boy. I will have another test next week just to confirm what we basically know.

My heart is ripping apart. As much as I already love this baby, as much as I want him, I look into the future and its not good. Financially a special needs child would be near impossible for us. I worry about what this would do for my daugters future. Not just financially but I am an older mom, who would be tasked to care for him when I could not? How can I place that burden on my living child? We can't know the severity of his disabilities until he is born, what kind of life am I laying out before him?

I am leaning towards terminating the pregnancy now, as its still very early, but I am truly torn. I am full of guilt and doubt. Afraid of making the wrong choice. I would like to honestly hear others opinions or experiences who have either been in my position or have a special needs child.

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Support /r/all My illness was misdiagnosed as anxiety for years. I am now in a wheelchair at 27.


After seeing a couple of similar stories on here I thought I'd share my own story about being misdiagnosed with anxiety for years.

Since about 2017 I've been having a myriad of bizarre symptoms. Random numbness, nerve pain (sometimes severe), exhaustion so severe I've had to quit my job, intense brain fog, vision problems leaving me at times unable to see in my right eye, tingling in my limbs, slurred speech to the point where I've been accused of being drunk, plus other strange and frightening things.

I've seen around 4 different Doctors over the years about these issues. Every single time I would be diagnosed with anxiety and essentially felt as though I was considered a hysterical hypochondriac. At one point a Doctor told me the reason for all my symptoms was because 'driving makes some people anxious, and you drive nearly every day.' Yep. Apparently having immense pain in my back and neck, losing vision in my eye, slurring my speech, and everything else I've experienced is because I drive a car.

That was about 18 months ago. I went home feeling humiliated and stupid. I gave up and have never tried to get a diagnosis again.... Maybe I was just crazy.

That was until a couple of weeks ago when I woke up with completely numb feet. I wasn't scared though, I was used to it. I've dealt with this shit for years and this was just yet another instance of my body being weird. Hoping it would be gone by the next day I ignored it, only to wake up the day after to find that I had completely lost feeling from the chest down.

I went to hospital where I stayed for over a week, and long story short I was diagnosed with a condition called transverse myelitis caused by an 'acute' Multiple Sclerosis flair up.

They did MRI scans on my brain and spine. Some of the many lesions I had were very old, which, according to the neurologist, means that I have likely had MS for years.

Although once diagnosed with my kind of MS there's no way of entirely eliminating the chances of a relapse, there are treatments available and precautions one can take which mean that relapses are less likely to happen and less severe. Because I was undiagnosed and untreated for literally years and have had a severe relapse, I have been in a wheelchair since my diagnosis and I have no idea if I will ever be able to walk normally ever again. I am 27 and I am in a fucking wheelchair. I can't feel ANYTHING below my chest except nerve pain and constant, awful pins and needles.

I've spoken to 2 male friends since my diagnosis. One with epilepsy, and one with MS. Both of my male friends, even the one with MS- who had almost identical symptoms to me, were referred to neurologists immediately. No 'you're anxious because you drive a car' bullshit.

So to any women out there being dismissed by health professionals as I was for fucking years- I feel you. I don't know what else to say except that I am heartbroken and furious that so many of us keep having to go through being labelled as essentially 'hysterical women' when we know we aren't. Not being believed is devastating when you can feel your brain and body failing.

Sorry this is poorly written. I actually have an English Degree but the MS has seemingly robbed me of the ability to think straight enough to write as well as everything else.

EDIT: Thank you all SO MUCH for the support. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes reading through everything. I know I will keep coming back to read these lovely comments when I have a bad day. I'm also so, so sorry to hear all these stories from other women- I feel so lucky that my illness is not life threatening.

Please don't worry about giving me any more awards :)

For those of you that don't believe me - thank you for proving my point.

Finally - I was diagnosed less than 2 weeks ago. Please do not PM me asking if I think you or your loved one has MS or what advice I can give you. My heart really goes out to you but I really am in no position to advise.

Sending hugs ❤️

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Support /r/all [Support] I wore a two piece to the beach and I’m feeling super insecure rn. Trying to gain more self confidence but I feel so bloated and ugly

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Support /r/all Why are old men creepy towards literal female children


I’m a 16 y/o girl in an internship that is mixed ages and genders ranging from high school kids to adults, there is an older guy maybe 45 or so idk he’s going bald tho lmao. Anyways he was always courteous and stuff he would offer me rides home if I ever needed, I never accepted though because I’m not an idiot. Today I was talking with him and another kid around my age about internship stuff when he asks me again if I need a ride home except this time he follows it by asking if we could “have a further relationship” and like grinned at me? So I was like “I’m literally 16” AND THIS MOTHERFUCKER JUST SMILES AND GOES “well that’s fine” so me and the other kid just stand there in shock looking at each other like “did this motherfucker just admit he’s a pedophile”(after the old guy left the kid checked up on me and asked if I wanted to report it to someone or something which was nice of him) During the moment I was sufficiently creeped out but after the shock subsided I just got pissed and felt disgusted (with the man not myself I didn’t do shit wrong lol) because there is no way I would be mistaken for an adult and I’ve mentioned being in high school before. I am kinda muscular but still quite short, around 5’ and I look rather young for my age and I just got so mad because I know I get this kind of attention from creeps because I look “young and submissive” and all these grown ass men are into that shit. I’m also pissed because I can’t go two fucking weeks without being harassed by old dudes. (My friends and I got screamed at at the beach a bit ago). I carry mace and I only have one day left of this internship but I’m just fucking livid because so many old men have the gall to expect sex and whatever else from LITERAL FUCKING CHILDREN.

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Support /r/all Being an asian girl right now is horrifying


Over the last year, being an Asian girl, of Chinese decent, has really opened my eyes to have horrible people can be. When the pandemic started the racist jokes just ramped up, mostly from my own friends too.

As the pandemic went on it only seemed to worsen. I could barley go out for a walk without being screamed at by some person who thought the government’s failure to contain COVID-19 was my fault. It was always something about me being an Asian woman too, threats of rape of death in the middle of a neighbourhood, along with some slurs added in.

With the shooting in Atlanta I’m now just fucking infuriated. “Having a bad day” are you serious? I’ve had so many bad days after being harassed while I try to get some damn exercise and yet I haven’t taken it out on anyone.

How many men on the street that threatened me with death and rape were close to having a “bad day” like that guy? I can’t help but to think that the men who’ve threatened me on the street aren’t far off from the monster who targeted and a committed terrorism on innocent asian woman working at a spa.

r/TwoXChromosomes Apr 07 '21 Silver Helpful Wholesome Hugz Take My Energy

Support /r/all A doctor tried to make me get an unnecessary procedure and I told him no


I am trying to get my nexplanon, a birth control arm implant, removed and no provider at my primary care clinic is able to do it, which is a simple outpatient procedure that takes less than 20 minutes to do. To go to my OBGYN clinic to see a provider that can perform the procedure, I need a referral from my primary care clinic, which should not be a big deal.


This morning I went to my appointment to get my referral and encountered a jerk of a doctor. He interrupted me several times as I tried to explain the reason for my visit and I had to correct him several times as he kept referring to my arm implant as an IUD, which is completely the wrong type of implant. He insisted that in order to get a referral I would have to get a pelvic ultrasound. I've had an arm implant removed before and didn't need a pelvic ultrasound previously, which I tried to explain to the doctor but he interrupted again to say that it's requirement and I wouldn't get a referral without one.


Trying to contain my rising frustration, I looked him straight in the eye and said "No". I explained once again that I have an arm implant and don't meet any criteria for a pelvic ultrasound. He tried to say that it was a general requirement so I had him pull up the criteria to go through it. Some of the criteria included diagnosed endometrial conditions, fibroids, abnormal bleeding, presence of an IUD, etc. None of which apply to me. After going through the criteria, the doctor was quiet for a second and said the OBGYN clinic would contact me to set up an appointment for an arm implant removal.


It was a frustrating experience for sure, but I am happy that I stuck up for myself and told a doctor "no". 18 year old me would have been too intimidated to speak up but thanks to others for talking about being their own advocate, like on this sub, I have learned a lot in taking control of my own medical care.



Tldr: A doctor said I needed to get an unnecessary procedure and I said no


Edit: for some common questions, 1) my insurance requires a referral for OBGYN & 2) I will be reporting this provider

r/TwoXChromosomes May 27 '21 Silver Gold Platinum Helpful Wholesome Hugz Bravo! Heartwarming Pot o' Coins Bravo Grande! Tearing Up

Support /r/all I'm about 30 hours in to my medical abortion right now.


FINAL UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/nmgzpv/im_about_30_hours_in_to_my_medical_abortion_right/gzpz933/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3

UPDATE: Ok wowza you guys!!!! I can't wait to jump in and read all of your responses. I'm so touched you have no idea! While skimming a few responses and messages in my notifications, I see a bunch of you are asking what state I live in and what organization helped me. I live in Louisiana and the organization that I reached out to is called New Orleans Abortion Fund. They are amazing human beings. Your donations would mean the world to me, them, and women in Louisiana who are dealing with this difficult experience with even worse parameters than I am. THANK YOU!

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I got pregnant from an extremely drunk one night stand on April 18th of this year. I knew I was pregnant before I even missed my period. I took a pregnancy test on May 1st and it was positive, so I then took 6 more and queue anxiety attack. I do not know the father's last name or have his phone number to contact him but I didn't want to anyway. I had already made my decision right then and there and didn't need his help to do so, so involving him was irrelevant in my opinion and just messy for no reason.

On May 3rd I started calling the clinics. My state is unfortunately a very backwards and conservative place that does not make it easy for us. There are only 3 clinics in the state and the furthest one from me being 5 hours, closest is about 20 minutes. They're all owned by the same company so when you call to make the appointment, a receptionist then tries to connect you to scheduling at the clinic of your choosing. 100% of the time for me, the receptionist would come back and tell me that all scheduling agents were on the line and to call back in 2 minutes to try to get one. I thought this was ridiculous the first 10 times I did it, so you can imagine my frustration after 30+ times at all 3 clinics. On my last try for that day, I got through to a scheduling agent only for her to tell me they couldn't take any more appointments and were closing for the day. At 2pm.

I started researching all over the internet about medical abortions and my options, and I started to get really paranoid that I was further along than I thought or that I was having an ectopic pregnancy and could be in a life threatening situation. Since I couldn't get in to any clinics, I made an appointment at my gynecologist so he could tell me my status. I saw him on May 10th and learned that I was 5 weeks and 2 days pregnant, due January 8, 2022 (that was so weird to hear), and having a normal in-uterine pregnancy.

This gave me so much peace of mind as I had about a month to legally get an abortion at the clinics or get my hands on the pills somehow. I read a bit about aidaccess.org and exchanged emails with them, but I wanted to try a few more avenues before risking the pills getting lost in the mail or taking too long to come in. I started researching some more and found an organization in my state that will help fund abortion procedures. I didn't need help with the funds but I figured they probably knew more than me about what the hell I should do and they did, thank God.

The organization contact straight up told me that it's going to be next to impossible to get a medical abortion in my state due to COVID unless I'm calling around the clock on several phones (are you fucking kidding me?) and that I'd most likely end up needing the procedure due to pregnancy progression. She was very empathetic and very much in agreement with me that our state fucking sucks, so she told me my best bet for a medical abortion was to go to the nearest Planned Parenthood that offered them and they would PayPal me a stipend for travel and meals, so that's what I did.

The closest one is about 5 hours from my home town so I turned down their stipend since I could afford it. Luckily for me, the PP I went to was able to waive the mandatory wait period between the initial visit and the first pill (due to COVID, not always), so I only had to go there once and could go back home and not miss so much work. I got my appointment for yesterday and it went like a normal doctor's visit goes. I took one pill with the doctor and was given 4 more for today, 24 hours from the first. From my understanding, the first pill kills the gestation and then the next expel everything from your uterus. I had absolutely zero symptoms from the first pill, and truthfully I think I had the greatest day I've had all month.

This morning at 9am I took 10mg of oxycodone that I already had (they told me to take Tylenol, but I was very nervous about the cramping). 10am, I put 2 tablets of the abortion medication on either side of my mouth between my cheek and gums and let it dissolve for 30 minutes. After 30 minutes, I swallowed the remains. I put on my granny panties and a maxipad and immediately got curled up in bed with a heating pad on my stomach. I woke up at about 12:45 to very obvious cramps and nausea.

The cramps aren't so bad for me even now as I type this, probably due to the painkiller. The NAUSEA on the other hand is debilitating. I break out in to a full body, DRIPPING sweat every single time I pass a clot. I just sit on the toilet with my face in an empty plastic bag, sweating, gagging but nothing comes up. And then it goes completely away and left in the toilet is tiny clots and tissue remnants, but that's it. What's wild to me is that I was expecting a full, heavy flow but it's almost like... pooping. There's nothing else in there but the clots and nothing on my pad. It's only when I sit on the toilet!! I know I'm in for a good 6+ more hours of my uterus shedding so I'm sure it will get gnarly and unpredictable, but I just was not expecting it to be like this.

I do feel better after writing my experience, so thanks for reading lol. And I also just want to say that I'm really lucky for being financially stable enough to do this, or not emotionally conflicted about it, forced or abused, I have a means of travel, the ability to even go through with it... so many women don't. And that's probably the only thing that has made me cry about all of this is that I can't believe it's really like this for us. The barriers I faced were stressful but fucking small compared to a woman with nothing and no resources. I can't imagine.

Abortion is healthcare and I will never stop fighting for that.

Edit: Thank you all so very much for the awards and nice words. I am going to try to move around and make some tea and maybe nap again or take a bath. Still nauseous, but not nearly as bad, and in virtually no pain at all. You have all touched my heart and made a shitty day better. And you should feel good knowing you made a sad, lonely stranger feel love and support. I will be back to read and respond to all of you in a bit. Thank you.

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Support /r/all I am SOARING.....


F/28 STEM professional here. I work in AI heuristics and design. We had a meeting with a potential client today. I wore a tailored men's business suit with a conservative scarf. I am a tall, slim, redhead and considered attractive. I made a chart of anticipated decision points within the programme. I was leaning over the table making my points but my scarf ends kept falling onto the chart, I took it off so as not to be a distraction. I was wearing a simple white blouse with the top two buttons undone - hardly risqué. As I was making my presentation, I noticed one of the three men was obviously trying to look down my blouse every time I bent over to point something out. This happened 5 or 6 times. My B+ boobs are hardly distracting, especially dressed as I was. The man who couldn't keep his eyes off them was their head IT guy. About 1/3 of the way through, the CEO interrupted me. He told the IT guy that if he couldn't keep his mind on business, he could leave. I apologised and offered to button up if it was distracting. He said not to bother and apologised to me about his guy's behaviour and the interruption. IT guy left and I continued. I felt SO empowered! The CEO respected both me and my work enough that he was willing to have his man leave so I would not feel uncomfortable. I have never had this happen before. I just had to let my sisters in STEM know times are changing! Keep up the good work. We're getting there.

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Support /r/all Heard from my Estranged Sister after a long time


I did not have a happy childhood. My mom was obsessed with the performing arts, she was a failed actress. I was overweight, not overly attractive and not talented in that way. I was bookish and shy. My mother always let me know what a disappointment I was to her. My little sister on the other hand was naturally talented and very beautiful. She had everything I didn't. She was my mothers golden child. Mom showered her with praise and attention and mostly ignored or belittled me. I grew up hating my mother and resenting my sister. I was jealous of her. Jealous of her looks, jealous of her talent, and jealous of the love our mother showered on her. My sister wasn't really mean to me but I wasn't particularly warm to her. As soon as I turned 18 I left for college and never looked back. I lost touch with them both.

Over the years my sister has gone on to great success in the entertainment industry. I watched her career flourish from afar but we never kept in touch. I went to college, got a degree, built a career and a family, and mostly put my sister and my mother behind me.

During the pandemic my sister reached out to me on social media. She wanted to get back in touch with me. Regretted that we hadn't kept in touch, apologized for being so busy. As if it was her fault alone. I decided to try and put my bitterness aside and talk to her. We caught up. One day talking to her I mentioned how I felt that she had gotten the best of mom and she laughed. She said I was lucky. Mom had always been very demanding of her, always pushed her, critical, overbearing, she told me she never had a spare second to herself. She was always being dragged to beauty pageants, auditions, acting lessons, singing lessons, dancing lessons, modeling lessons. A typical stage mom. I never saw the worst of it. Once I had left Mom was terrible to her. Mom would berate her for even small mistakes. She had crazy high expectations of her and was putting immense pressure on a teenage girl and without me to vent her anger on she vented it on my sister, putting her under even more pressure. My sister told me how sad and lonely she was through her teenage years and how she had wanted to be closer to me.

I was floored. I had spent so much time resenting the love I thought mom showed her I never realized how toxic that "love" really was. I never realized how terribly mom had treated her too. I saw my sisters success later in life and never thought of her as another victim of my mothers. I dont know what to say to her now. I dont know how to explain to her why I never kept in touch or how much bitterness and resentment I had for her. I was so busy being jealous of her I never saw how she was a little girl being bullied by our mother as well. I'm ashamed of myself.

Edit: I just got back from work and am checking all the replies now. Wow thank you all so much. I think I will gather my courage and show her this post.

r/TwoXChromosomes Feb 24 '21 Silver Gold Helpful Wholesome Hugz Take My Energy Tearing Up Helpful (Pro)

Support /r/all I’m free. He will never hit me again.


I left early this morning when he was asleep. I found his empty bottles in his truck and when he was getting angry and calling me names last night I knew he was drunk. He hit me last January and promised he would never drink again.

I’m free.

r/TwoXChromosomes Jul 26 '20 Take My Energy Ally Hugz

Support /r/all When Adult Men Physically Threaten Young Women


My boyfriend and I both currently work in (different) restaurants. I work as a server, and he works as a bar manager.

Yesterday, he came home from work and was fairly distant and quiet. I could tell his mind was elsewhere. So, I prodded a little bit over the course of a few hours, as I was concerned for him.

Well, when he opened up...I was shocked.

Yesterday, a family of 5 walked into his restaurant, and the father wasn’t wearing a mask. Currently, his restaurant requires that everyone wears a mask while entering the building, walking around the building, working, or leaving the building. And they hold to it.

So, a young teenage hostess asked the father if he had a mask...they have masks to provide to guests should they not have one.

The mother answered “Oh! He doesn’t wear a mask.” And chuckled.

The father...then lifted his shirt, revealing a gun on his hip, and stated “When you have one of these, you don’t need a mask!”

The hostess made a quick and smart decision...she de-escalated the situation and sat the family at a table closest to the door.

She then immediately informed my boyfriend and the front of house manager of what happened.

Both managers assessed the situation, and decided to call the police. When the police showed up, they escorted the father to the parking lot. A few minutes later, the father re-entered the building, spoke with his family quietly, and they left the restaurant.

Can you imagine being a teenager making minimum wage, being threatened by a grown man with a gun...over a mask being required on private property??

He literally threatened a teenager with a gun in order to gain access to private property...all because he didn’t want to comply with restaurant’s mask requirements, which are in line with current CDC recommendations and government mandates...

The hostess must be terrified to go back to work!

I’m terrified to go back to work at my restaurant!

My boyfriend worries if the father will retaliate, and if others will act as the father did...

I’ve rarely worried for my safety at work or the safety of others...but, fuck this guy for making so many people so fearful just to go to work, pay their bills, and live their lives!

r/TwoXChromosomes Sep 19 '20 Gold Platinum Helpful Wholesome Hugz Take My Energy This Rocket Like Healthcare Hero

Support /r/all I had an abortion at 15, and it was the best decision of my life. I feel like a coward for not being vocal about it to help destigmatize abortion in general.


I grew up in a very religious household. I'm no longer religious. I have a lot of very conservative, openly anti abortion people on my social media. With everything going on, especially the death of RBG, I feel compelled to share how abortion saved my life. But I'm too scared.

It's something I've never told anyone, not even my closest friends. But it saved me and allowed me to become the woman I am today and I'm 100% grateful. No regrets. I want to show all those hateful people I know that abortion can have positive outcomes. Not everyone who gets an abortion is an infertile, mentally destroyed woman who laments her choice like their propaganda tells them.

I genuinely one of the easiest ways to destigmatize something is to TALK about it. Open up the conversation and erase the shame around it. But I know it would come at a cost. I'm feeling emboldened and guilty because I feel like a hypocrite.

EDIT: Thank you all so much for the awards and kind words. I am overwhelmed by the positive outcome of posting this. Seriously, thank you all.

To the people sending me hateful messages, keep them coming. I'm genuinely enjoying laughing at the vitriol.

r/TwoXChromosomes Jan 19 '20 Silver Gold Platinum Helpful (Pro) Heart Eyes PRO

Support /r/all I Was Pro-Life Until Two Days Ago


I never thought it could happen to me. I don't want kids, never have, and neither does my husband. I was firmly pro-life...until I realized my period was seven days late. And then I began to realize what it felt like to be trapped. I had my period today (so not pregnant) but I was forced to consider so many things yesterday and the day before. I'll never allow myself to judge others for their reproductive choice ever again.

r/TwoXChromosomes Feb 01 '20 Silver Gold Platinum Helpful This Bless Up Helpful (Pro) Mr. Penguin Yas Queen MOOD Spill the Tea Extra

Support /r/all I'm so tired


I'm so sick of the everyday sexism. I'm exhausted.

I'm a physician, and I get bullshit for being a female literally every day. I typically have a good sense for benign bias from well-meaning patients and colleagues versus malignant, angry sexism, and I navigate those scenarios accordingly. That alone takes some effort, but it's become second nature, so whatever. I'm used to being called "nurse" or "ma'am" or "miss" or "lady" by patients. I've described, in detail, a surgery I am JUST ABOUT TO PERFORM, and had the patient afterwards ask when they can speak to a doctor. I've had a patient call me "sweetheart" while I was sticking a needle into him. I've come to assess a very sick ICU patient and had an old female nurse declare "the little lady is here!". I've fought very public fights with sexist superiors and become better and stronger for it. I'm known as vocally opinionated and "sassy", and that's fine, I definitely am. I normally try to wear that proudly.

This pediatric month, I'm working with a colleague of my training level who is way less experienced in our current content but still CONSTANTLY interrupts me when I'm talking to staff and patients during MY procedures, and I've chalked it up to social unawareness. Today, I enter a room to do a procedure and introduce myself as "Dr. MrsRodgers" to the patient's dad. I go to shake the patient's father's hand, and he physically recoils, takes 2 steps back, and says, "Oh, oh, I can't shake your hand, sorry, it's religous". I was confused, but whatever, fine, roll with it. I start explaining the procedure I am about to perform on his child, and my colleague barrels in. He interrupts me immediately, stating, "Hi, I'm Dr. Colleague, I work with *MY FIRST NAME*", and walks up to shake the dad's hand. The dad immediately extends his hand and engages in a handshake.

I was fucking crushed. I felt so dehumanized. Watching my patient's father shake my less experienced male colleague's hand, the male colleague who had just introduced himself as Dr. Colleague while stripping me of my title and casually referring to me as my first name, after that father had just recoiled from my handshake... In that moment, I realized it never ends. This fight never ends. It doesn't matter what I do, what degrees I earn, how hard I work, how smart or compassionate or accomplished I ever am or ever will be. I will always be second class. I will always be interrupted by male colleagues. I will always deal with sexist "jokes" from old male attendings. I will always be called nurse at best, sexually harassed at worst by patients. People will always look to my younger male trainees and assume they're in charge. It never ends. I am so fucking tired of fighting this fight and I am so, so sad that everything I've worked my entire life for is ignored daily by patients, colleagues, and bosses. I am angry that my conservative friends/family immediately dismiss my LIVED sexist experiences any time I share. It SUCKS. I wish I had the confidence and gravitas of an under-qualified man. I really do.

Tomorrow, I pick up the mantle and fight again. But tonight, I'm just tired. Thanks for listening, ladies, love you all.

Edit: Wow guys, this blew up. I'm reading everything, I promise. First and foremost to the brilliant, accomplished women sharing their stories and frustrations: you are smart and strong and loved. Thank you for making this world better. To the empathetic men: thank YOU for listening, and for being allies/advocates. You are appreciated. To the people trying to explain the no-handshake religious stuff: I get it. I'm not arguing the validity/merit/rules of their religion, I'm just sharing how dehumanizing it was. To those worried about my workplace: I work for a great institution, this stuff happens everywhere. And to the people messaging me physical threats of violence and calling me a c**t: thanks for adding fuel to the fire.

r/TwoXChromosomes Mar 01 '20 Gold Helpful Silver

Support /r/all I lost over 100lbs and all I got was this shitty sexual harassment.


Yeah, the title kinda says it. I'd like to clarify there are worse things women experience, and women of all sizes get harased. And I wouldn't trade my improved health/life for anything.

But I guess it's justust weird emotionally, and I was hoping you all would understand. It's common "advice" among weightloss groups that as you loose major weight, the men get nicer and women get meaner. Which some absolute bullshit, my female friends have been nothing but supportive. But yeah, past the litteral dating pool expansion, it's the increase in basic humanity that gets to me. I get more male eye contact, compliments, doors opened. Like I can't be mad at someone for litterally being nice to me, but at the same time, it pisses me off.

And then there's the literal harassment, it's all increased. The random dick picks, the creepy customers, feeling unsafe on streets and in bars. And I'm not even model status, just more passable. There's just this sick twisted irony to it all. I'm finally in control of my health and my body and sometimes it's like damn I whish I was fat enough to dance in club and not have anyone try to grind on me again. Weightloss communities celebrate "non scale victories", and there's so many good ones, like clothing and hikes and fitting in airplane seats, but no one prepared me that unwanted male harassment was going to be a measure of my success. And it pisses me off.

So here's to putting less stress on my internal organs, and doing more of the things I love. But also being a women is really hard sometimes, and there are days I miss my cloak of invisibility. To everyone out there doing their best, big, small, or in-between, on a health journey to gain, loose, or maintain-- virtual group hug?

r/TwoXChromosomes May 30 '20 Silver Gold Take My Energy Bravo! Hugz Yas Queen

Support /r/all A stranger touched me on the bus yesterday


Yesterday I was riding the bus home with a good friend of mine. We were sitting and talking about what we should do when we got to my place and I told her I really wanted to show her Hannah Gadsby's Nanette.

Suddenly I'm feeling something on my left upper thigh/ upper butt cheek. I'm looking down, because I thought my cigarettes might be falling out of my pocket or something, but it felt wrong. And then I notced a man sitting on the seat behind me. My mind instantly thought of the posts I've read here from women being groped on the bus. Women who have stayed silent, because they were unsure if what they were really experiencing it or because they've been taught to never make a scene. I've been taught the same. I'm dead scared of confrontation and I constantly doubt my self.

I'm also trying to learn self-love and building self-worth.

We're almost at our stop and we discuss getting off soon. I still wasn't sure if I was actually touched by the man behind me, but decided I would share it with my friend when we get off and discuss it with her.

Then he touches me again. This time on my right side.

Something fucking snapped. I got up on my knees on the seat and turned around and looked down on the white man in his 30s in a grey track suit behind me. My voiced deepened and hardened as I ask him what the FUCK he thought he was doing. He didn't got a chance to answer before I loudly and firmly said that he should never EVER touch strangers on the bus.

He answered in a tone where he was trying to sound inoccent and trying to make me out to be the crazy one in this scenario. People were looking at us now. "I haven't touched you. I don't know what you're talking about" he said.

I said to him that he knew exactly what I was talking about, that he was a fucking creep and that he should never ever grope women agian.

And then we got off. And I was so fucking proud.

I wouldn't have done this 6 months ago, but I'm now doing the most self-loving thing there is: trusting myself.

And I made a fucking scene and that disgusting person had to sit there knowing that everybody in the bus knew that he was a creep who sexually assaults people.

I wanted to share it with you ladies, because one of the things that made me trust my instinct when I thought something might be off was you sharing your similar stories (Sidenote: I can also recommend reading The Gift of Fear), so now I want to share mine with you.

I still have to process the difficult emotions that come with being put in that situation, but sharing it with you is the first step in that proces.

Thank you

Edit: I've been using my sunday morning reading comments and trying to answer a few where it made sense. The vast, vast majority of the comments have been supportive and you guys have shared your similar experiences and I so want to thank you for that. Sharing something like this, no matter how small or big the violation in itself was, is incredibly scary and I feel very vulnerable and overwhelmed right now. I did not expect this to get as much attention as it did and although a part of me wants to take it down, because I currently feel very exposed, I can see the value in and be grateful that it opened up for the discussion that it did. Although it saddens me that so many women can relate to this I truly appreciate you sharing your experiences here so we can make sure that the next woman this happens to trusts herself and her instincts.

There's a few comments questioning if I was sure it really was the guy and not my friend or some other explanation. My friend wouldn't do that. He was the only one in reach of me other than my friend. I'm also a person that most of the time doubt myself, my experiences and feelings. I do not doubt this experience. Not even for a second. You might not believe me and I have learned to accept the things I cannot change. Just know that you had a choice here: to trust a woman or the creep. Today you chose to trust the creep. I hope you make a better choice next time.

r/TwoXChromosomes Jan 08 '20 Silver Gold Platinum NYE Ball Drop

Support /r/all My Doctor called me ‘sad’ for wanting an abortion after my birth control failed.


Throwaway account. As the title states my birth control failed and I found out last week I was pregnant. My husband (30M) and I (26F) discussed our options in depth but we can barely financially support ourselves currently and I cannot do my job while pregnant due to the company’s insurance and associated risks. I am a contractor and would lose my job immediately if my employer found out. We want to be parents someday but it’s not the right time and we have no support from family/ friends. We also both grew up in poverty and swore we would never do that to our future children.

After a lot of long discussions we decided that, since it’s so early in the pregnancy, abortion is the best way forward. I did my best to be informed and do my research as to where to go and who to talk to but felt like I was going in circles so I figured my best bet was to talk to my GP and go from there (the closest Planned Parenthood type clinic is two+ hours away). I thought she might be able to provide more information or, at the very least, confirm that I am pregnant.

This is where my asshat of a doctor comes in. I’ve been seeing her for about two years and she is the typical 2 minutes at most with you doctor. She really doesn’t seem to have any f***s to give when it comes to her patients and makes you feel like you are wasting everyone’s time if you ask her questions.

Knowing this, I made sure to call and be very specific about my needs telling them I was pregnant and needing an abortion. The staff assured me multiple times that I needed to come into the office to speak to my doctor about it and would not provide anymore details in terms of cost or what to expect etc.

I show up for the appointment with my husband and am asked when I check in what the appointment is for. I tell them that I am pregnant and need to discuss my options, receptionist enters it in and tells me to have a seat. When we finally get taken into a room, the nurse asks me again what I am here for and again I say I’m pregnant and need to discuss abortion options. She writes it down without saying anything, takes my blood pressure and leaves.

Enter Dr. Asshat, stage left.

Dr. A - “Hello. Why are you here today?”

Me -“ I’m pregnant and need to discuss my options for...”

Dr. A - (interrupting) “How do you know? At home pregnancy tests?”

Me - “Yes, I’ve taken a couple and they all came out....”

Dr. A - (interrupting) “So you need a referral for pre-natal care.”

Me - “Um no, we’re not ready to have a child yet and I wanted to discuss our options with you”

Dr. A - (long pause while she looks at me, disgusted) “You mean you want an abortion? Really? An abortion? Ugh. (Makes aggressive eye contact with me) That’s sad. (Looks at my husband, expectantly. Long pause while she stares daggers at us. Then rustles paperwork and get up as if to leave) We don’t do that here. No one in the area does.”

Me -“Ok, but when I called I specifically told them this is what I needed and they told me....”

Dr. A - (interrupting whilst huffing out a sigh like I’m the slowest idiot she’s ever dealt with) “I can refer you to someone for pre-natal care but that’s it. Nothing else. We don’t do anything like that. There isn’t anywhere near here that even does...those. You’ll have to figure that out on your own.”

Me -“Ok, but when I called I specifically told them I needed an abortion and they told me I had to schedule an appointment to talk to you.”

Dr. A - (continuing to gather up her paperwork) “We’ll just cancel this appointment then, is that all?”

Me - “Um yes, that was all”

Dr. A - (walking out without a backward glance) “go down the hall to the right.” End scene.

I ended up getting a refund for my co-pay and bawling my eyes out in the parking lot while my husband hugged me. I have been so stressed about this (on top of being exhausted, dealing with morning sickness, and crazy emotional swings) and she made me feel like a despicable human being and utterly worthless.

I understand that she is allowed to have her own opinions on the matter and has every right to disagree with our choice. However, as a medical professional that I entrust my care to, she does NOT have the right to make shitty comments about that choice and she does not have the right to treat me/us the way she did. (The clinic she works for is not religiously affiliated and does not have any posted information anywhere about being anti-choice.)

My husband and I are both upset and angry but have not, and will not, change our minds on this. I’ll also be finding a new GP as soon as humanly possible.

Edit -Holy shit y’all are amazing. I went for a walk to try and clear my head (can’t stay upset for long watching an exuberantly happy pup on a walk) and came back to such an outpouring of love and support and I’m so overwhelmed. THANK YOU to everyone who wrote encouraging words and to those that gave much needed advice. I have an appointment with the aforementioned Planned Parenthood and have transportation so hopefully this whole situation will be resolved in no time. I am working my way through the comments and doing my best to reply where I can. Thank you all. You will never know just how much of an impact you’ve had. I no longer feel like my husband an I are alone in this 💜

Edit 2 - THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE AWARDS!! Thanks for even more encouraging comments and for the silver and gold guys. Y’all really do know how to turn a gal’s day around. My husband and I can’t thank you enough for the support! Thank you for the loving comments and messages. Thank you to all those that messaged with offers of rides or funds. Thank you!!

Also just a few bits of info for y’all that are asking; - I do live in the US (crazy this shit is still happening here, right?) in Florida specifically. - I have called and set up an appointment with the most ‘local’ PP office and do have transportation there.

Lastly: to those lovely individuals sending me expletive and hate filled messages; save your breath. I’m not reading them and clearly you have your own personal issues to work out with all that copious free time currently spent on badly written hate mail. Please seek help for your violent tendencies so that you can handle having adult conversations with people without throwing a tantrum and using the word ‘cunt’.

Edit 3 - Last edit y’all! Thank you so much for all of the messages, chats, and comments. I’ve done my best to respond to everyone, if I missed you I’m sorry. My husband and I are incredibly thankful for this community and the support you’ve shown us today. I will continue to respond as I can. From the bottom of my heart, thank you!! Thank you to all those that shared their stories in support and offered a shoulder to lean on should we need it. You’ve made us feel so loved and I could never thank you enough.

r/TwoXChromosomes Dec 31 '19 Silver Gold Platinum Coin Gift Bless Up (Pro) Elf Train 2020 Vision

Support /r/all My husband ended his life this year. Fuck 2019.


Hi guys. I don’t even know what I want from this, but I’m really struggling today with New Years happening. I have an infant son who I am now the sole parent for. My husband had just admitted to having an affair with my friend for three months, then he killed himself after telling me. He took off in our 1 car and wouldn’t pick up his phone so there was nothing I could do to stop him. My friend blocked me on everything and is continuing her life with her own husband and son. I don’t know what to expect from 2020. I’m feeling so left behind. I guess I just need some love. Or maybe just tell me how your 2019 was. Or let’s just talk about any of our problems and commiserate. Thanks. Also, I had to create a new reddit account to post this; I mainly lurk and when I tried to post with my other account it didn’t work for some reason. Thanks.

Edit: wow, thank you all so much for the overwhelming support. I posted this because I was feeling desperate, heartbroken and alone today. I no longer feel that way. I am reading every single message and comment... I will get back to you but it’s going to take me some time! Anyways, thanks from the bottom of my heart and know that you’ve made a really sad New Years a little bit brighter for me and my son. Happy New Year, everyone.

r/TwoXChromosomes Apr 22 '20 Gold Platinum Take My Energy Tree Hug Bless Up (Pro)

Support /r/all My Husband thought he had Coronavirus but has Leukemia instead.


I have no idea where to post this but could really use some support right now. My husband and I live in Michigan. As some of you might know, michigan is kind of a hotspot for the coronavirus right now. We had been in quarantine since before the start of the stay at home order. However on April first, my husband started to have a fever and a cough.

Things slowly started to get worse. About 4 days after he started feeling sick, I started to have symptoms. We were both experiencing the same types of things, fever, chills, fatigue, and a dry cough. We thought for sure this was the beginning of the virus.

I would be considered a high risk person to get the virus. I am overweight and have preexisting conditions. Naturally I was concerned for myself, my husband is a fit, 26 year old man, who has no pre existing conditions. I figured he would be just fine.

All of the sudden I was starting to get better. I started to have energy to do things again, while my husband just gradually started to decline. One night he passed out because his blood oxygen level got too low. When the ambulance arrived, they told me that he was fine after taking his vitals and that he just needed to take it easy.

Every single time my husband would stand up, his blood oxygen would tank. And by tank, I mean 80s or 70s. He insisted that he was fine because the EMT's said he was fine. I argued with him for hours trying to get him to go to the hospital, but he refused. He was scared to go because of the virus, the lack of supplies, the shortage of staff and he didn't want to take up space for someone else. But mostly he didn't want to be left alone.

I finally gave up and agreed to let him stay home. For the next few days, I took care of him. He would move the bare minimum. I was constantly waking up during the night to check his vitals and waiting on him hand and foot. He was just so sick. The day before he went to the hospital he slept for about 16 hours, longer then I had ever seen him sleep before.

The day he went in he had a final exam. He was just so sick that he couldn't take it. He was freaking out because yet again, he was struggling to breath. He would walk about 15 feet to go sit on the couch and be so short of breath that he couldn't even speak. He finally agreed to go in, fully expecting to only be in the hospital for a short period of time.

When we got there they rushed him back. I had to yell I love you and goodbye from the door. I didn't get to hold his hand, or hug him goodbye. He was just taken back and I was told to go home.

Thankfully he is in a good hospital where they worked extremely fast. Running initial blood work showed that his hemoglobin was at 3, making this life threatening. In less than four hours, he was diagnosed with AML leukemia. Our world had been flipped upside down. His short hospital stay had turned in to 4 weeks. Our whole future has been put into question. All of the sudden we went from thinking it was the virus to talking about chemotherapy and fertility problems.

Worst of all is the waiting. We are still waiting for the results from the gene study that determines which subtype of AML leukemia he has. This determines how treatable it is and what we can do moving forward. He is already well into chemo and doing his best to fight this. He has developed a mild pneumonia to top it all off and has trouble talking for longer than a few minutes without hacking up a lung. If we video chat he gets emotional because he just wants nothing more than to come home.

Here is why I think this is appropriate to post here. My heart is broken as a women. My whole life plan has been put into question. I don't know if we will ever be able to have children or grow old together. I don't know what to expect or where this will go.

This is even worse considering that the pandemic is going on. I am now at home alone with my thoughts. I am not allowed to go see him at all. I am not allowed to go see my family at all because they are all high risk for the virus. I am not allowed to even go do normal ass things like go to the grocery store without fear.

This is my worst nightmare. I have been through one hell of a lot in my life but this is easily the most difficult thing I will ever go through. My heart is breaking because the most important person in the world to me is hurting so badly and there is nothing I can do. Everyday here alone is my own personal hell. I have no idea how we are going to get through this. My heart just hurts and I am scared.

Sorry for the long rant. I am just not doing okay.

Also if you think you have the virus, this is why you should try to get tested.. it could be something else. Including something much, much worse.