r/antiwork Jan 14 '22 Silver 5 Helpful 16 Wholesome 10

So sorry, I'm broke so I can only pay you $77 for my food. You were great though.

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u/InRadiantBloom Jan 14 '22

Sometimes people are made to go out with family, then is expected to pay. It's embarrassing to tell your family that you can't afford to buy expensive shit all the time. There was a whole Friends episode about that.

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u/Miserable-Extreme-59 Jan 15 '22

my parents one time were 'invited' out to dinner by some acquaintances and these fools had no money to pay their half and pretended it was all normal.

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u/Pavorleone Jan 15 '22

My sociopath uncle used to do that all the time to my parents.

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u/yogyadreams Jan 15 '22

Should have gaslighted them

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u/Dash775 Jan 15 '22

I think you mean ghosted?

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u/The___canadian Jan 15 '22

Them: "we dont have money"

Him: "Uh, yes you do"

Them: "no...no we don't, I just checked, our house got taken by the bank and we're looking at shelters to house ourselves in until we find a cheap place"

Him: "nah man, you got money"

Them: "ah fuck, you right man. My bad" swipes credit card

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u/your_uncle_mike Jan 15 '22

I’ve seen this word used incorrectly a lot but this is taking it to a new level.

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u/hornitoad45 Jan 15 '22

Sometimes couples save just enough to go out to a nice restaurant they can’t usually afford, or even receive a gift card there.

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u/Galbin Jan 15 '22

Yep. My family do this for every birthday and it really stresses me out. My husband doesn't usually come along now because we can't afford to pay for three people - him, me, and the birthday recipient.

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u/FluffyDog423 Jan 15 '22

Well hey, one good thing to come out of the pandemic— any time someone’s birthday is approaching you can say you’re sick and need to quarantine until a negative test or say you were exposed and can’t go out, but you will send a card.

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u/Stop-Stalking-Me1111 Jan 15 '22

Probably more saddening to have such ignorant family expecting you to do that.

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '22

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u/trapacivet Jan 15 '22

I feel for you, and hope that you tell your dad you will go, but then don't show up and don't answer his calls next time.

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u/AhLibLibLib Jan 15 '22

That’s when you say “nah you said it was your shout champ”

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u/RedshiftSinger Jan 15 '22 edited Jan 15 '22

The answer to that is “grow a spine and learn to tolerate a little embarrassment”.

Learning to set boundaries with your family is important.

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u/gotta_h-aveit Jan 15 '22

It’s a lot more embarrassing to not afford the tip, so they ought to suck it up. Don’t put that shit on me.

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u/insertnamehere02 Jan 15 '22

My family was notorious for doing that. Always choosing pricey restaurants that we couldn't afford.