r/antiwork Jan 14 '22 Silver 5 Helpful 16 Wholesome 10

So sorry, I'm broke so I can only pay you $77 for my food. You were great though.

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u/Shruikathemonk Jan 14 '22 Silver Gold Helpful Wholesome Starry

American tipping culture is a cancer.


u/PattyIce32 Jan 15 '22

It only works when things are going well. Times of struggle its borderline indentured servitude level pay


u/MudLOA Jan 15 '22

You should have read a similar post a few days ago. People were posting about how great it was making so much money from tips and I’m sure a lot of them were also not reporting income tax on it. It’s just all about the cash in the pocket and who cares about not having sick days or insurance.


u/7dipity Jan 15 '22

I have a friend who bartends and always told me it can be such great money. Recently she got a concussion and was out for three weeks. Then she caught Covid. Another two weeks. She just found out she needs a dental procedure that’ll cost ~700 dollars. She’s broke right now so her boyfriend is staying at his current job that he was going to quit for something else so that she can get his benefits


u/gfhfghdfghfghdfgh Jan 15 '22

People can transfer benefits to their dates?


u/7dipity Jan 15 '22

Yeah they’ve been together for 3 and living together for >a year. In Canada that qualifies you as a common law partner for insurance benefits


u/_NoBoXiNgNoLiFe_ Jan 15 '22

You mean, canada DOESN'T have the 'free at the point of need' universal healthcare like we have in britain?

And there i was, thinking canada was civilised ...


u/nevsdottir Jan 15 '22

It does have free medical care...but NOT dental care, which is annoying

Does UK NHS cover dental care?

If she is out sick because of covid there are numerous government programs for $$$.

Finally, in Canada bartenders earn a lot more per hour than in the US and this year they'll be getting 15/hr minimum. Unemployment should be decent then too, if necessary.


u/7dipity Jan 15 '22

Yeah it makes me mad, not sure how the government decided that this stuff wasn’t important


u/cameldrew Jan 15 '22

Are you fucking joking? That's wild. Not saying it's bad, just WILD to imagine any government letting a human benefit another human just for banging them in-house for over 365 days.


u/drex3739 Jan 15 '22

A lot of states have common law practices as well as companies. It’s not as bizarre as you think.


u/nonaaandnea Jan 16 '22

Haha I like the way you put that. I read somewhere that common law marriages have always actually been the most prevalent form of marriage in Western culture though, due to the fact that the vast majority of people were too poor to have a "proper" marriage (even though religious texts don't even say you have to buy rings, have a priest, get married in a church, sign a piece of paper, etc.). The only thing that actually makes a marriage "legit" is two people going before their families and community and vowing their lives together. That's basically what marriage boils down to in every culture. Though I can understand why some cultures use laws to enforce that commitment.


u/MetsFan113 Jan 15 '22

My job allows it as long as you can prove you have lived together for more than 6 months... I got no deductible, 25$ co-pays and 5$ prescriptions...


u/romulusnr Jan 15 '22

In some places if you live with someone permanently they can receive benefits. Not always.

In lots of places, living with someone in a relationship for over a certain amount of time is considered a "common law marriage" i.e. statutorily defined instead of actually being officially married. (And then there's Massachusetts where more than three unrelated women living together is legally considered a whorehouse, but that's a story for another day.)

This is actually how they got Tom Green! (Er, not that Tom Green... this Tom Green.)

But that's far more than just "their dates," if anything it's "playing house."

I lived with my ex for 12 years, we were never married. I live with my current SO for 5-6 years, we act like we're married although covid has put a bit of a hitch (heh) in the works to get it official. In some places we could actually file for domestic partnership, although that's rarer now that SSM is legalized in US.


u/ahandmedowngown Jan 15 '22

Yes some companies allow common law or significant other coverage.


u/But_why_tho456 Jan 15 '22

And others require you to pay the "family plan" because your sister or mom living with you doesn't qualify you to do the cheaper "me+spouse" health insurance plan.


u/River_Montana538 Jan 15 '22

Most insurance companies do not allow that, it's not up to the companies what the insurance will allow or not to allow. There has to be some legal relationship other than who you are dating. Some States recognize common law but not all, and still not all insurance companies will recognize that.


u/AimlessgrlJax Jan 15 '22

They are in Canada


u/monogamish306 Jan 15 '22

Right. Up here, North of the medicine line the govt didn't want roommates stacking up their single-income non-taxable exemptions so common law relationships are part of our legal/taxation infrastructure from the top down.

A friend of mine had to fight with Revenue Canada (Maple Leaf IRS equivalent) for ages to prove that she and a roommate weren't in a relationship because they had lived together so long. Don't fuck with right-wingers' money; the fact that it's in your pocket doesn't mean it doesn't belong to their friends.


u/Chance-Ad-9111 Jan 15 '22

Wow! Great!!


u/CancerIBC Jan 15 '22

And what about the people who don’t have a significant other?


u/JohnLick3 Jan 15 '22

This is the most American catch 22 I've ever read.


u/7dipity Jan 15 '22

Canada actually! Healthcare doesn’t cover dental or eyes unfortunately


u/monogamish306 Jan 15 '22

Also, seldom drugs.


u/NewArborist64 Jan 17 '22

What do you expect when you are out of work with no pay for 5 weeks? Most of our bills don't go away just because we stop working.

If she is a "common-law" wife, then her husband should be picking up some of the slack for her being out of work.

If she is in Canada - I thought that they had tax-payer funded healthcare. Why should she need $700 for a dental procedure?


u/River_Montana538 Jan 15 '22

She can't get his benefits if she's the girlfriend.