r/pics • u/true_nexus • 6d ago
Dad Got Released From Hospital Today After Battling COVID And Winning! (He’s 84)
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u/PuddleDuster 6d ago
You look strangely like Fluffy btw :)
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u/lodger238 6d ago
Really hits home for me, so nice to read this.
I lost my 89 year old mother to it last year.
My very best to all of you.
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u/true_nexus 6d ago
❤️ Oh my!! I am so sorry to hear this!! My deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss 😢
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u/Strbrst 6d ago
A true /r/pics moment
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u/imasmolspoon 6d ago
nice mask! you two look super happy!
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u/LePontif11 6d ago edited 6d ago
Yeah he has that signature look happy people have of stop taking pictures and take me home you damn moron lmao
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u/dr_xenon 6d ago
Now he can’t really give you the business about how “back in my day we had to...” “and I beat covid at 84!!”
When things are going rough just think “ if Dad beat covid at 84, I can do this...”
Cherish every day you have with him. You two look very lucky to have each other.
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u/Nano559 6d ago
Glad to hear your dad is doing okay! Can we all please stop using this "winning" thing though? It implies the people that died are simply losers. This goes with people dealing with cancer too, which is where I've seen these types of comments being made.
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u/Nano559 6d ago
Surviving cancer or covid isn't a choice or a reflection of mental strength.
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u/OutlanderMom 6d ago edited 5d ago
I’ve known people whose spirits were tired and broken from fighting cancer. They gave up and then they died. It’s important that the sick one fights mentally and physically, and keep their focus on “winning”. And really, if he’s 84 and survived covid and the ventilator, he’s a winner if that’s what he wants to call himself. It doesn’t make others “losers” or “second place” if they lost the battle. Covid kills indiscriminately.
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u/personyourestalking 6d ago
This. Mental strength goes a long way when fighting illness of any kind. Our minds and our bodies are connected. I don't think it's helpful for people to be a rain cloud on someone's victory because they see a positive and think about what the negative looks like. I just want to be happy for people and celebrate for them. We've gotta stop seeing other people's joy and comparing it to our own sorrow. Live vicariously through other people's happiness instead of making them feel guilty for it. Were all in this pandemic together.
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u/JeffBuildsPC 6d ago
To be fair, I’ve personally heard people say that their loved ones lost their fight with cancer. So I think the winning/losing a battle with a sickness is fairly common and doesn’t necessarily disrespect those who passed.
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u/Osiris_Of_This_Shit_ 6d ago
Or maybe we could start putting interesting pictures on the front page of /r/pics.
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u/TkOHarley 6d ago
I agree. Anyone whos lost a loved one to Covid isn't gonna have a good time seeing this post and seeing how the dad survived because he "battled" as opposed to the deceased ones who 'didnt choose to fight back'.
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u/nigookmixbear 6d ago
I sorted by controversial to find this comment because I experience similar feelings - I am exploring these thoughts: Survival is different than fight and the battle/fight lingo is like an abstraction to conceptualize what is compromising your life. Similarly to you my mind extrapolates the winning term to imply that those who don't survive what they experienced didn't try hard enough or weren't as strong of people, when in reality circumstances are too nuanced to be paralleled from person to person. I'm sure there are internal tactics that can influence survival rate but it isn't like skilled output, more like wisdom. I don't think the person on ventilator is fighting a balrog inside of their mind with masterful movement and righteous motivation to determine their worth to the physical realm; my speculation is that being relaxed and stable is more helpful to recovery than treating it like a battlefield. How conscious are you when you're almost dying anyway? Is there a subversive impact from the hypothetical societal assessment (with respect to the strength of your fundamental being) to the recovery process? To me it seems like becoming brutally ill is more like having your village raided than participating in a war.
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u/jedilow 6d ago
From my experience (intubated for two weeks) and my dad's (intubated as well), the mental aspect did matter - it's incredibly easy to give up, especially with all of the hallucinations that you end up having and your condition when you do wake up. Sure, it's not the entire picture of why we survived, but from my perspective it was pretty significant.
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u/hhhhhhmmmmm 6d ago edited 6d ago
Edit: thought you were replying to the cancer comment, this reply isn't about COVID.
Survival is different than fight and the battle/fight lingo is like an abstraction to conceptualize what is compromising your life
When my dad was living with cancer, he didn't want to be constantly reminded that he had cancer. People calling him "brave, strong and a fighter" were constant reminders and kind of demoralizing; He had no control over what was going on, and those compliments felt like people where pitying him.
How conscious are you when you're almost dying anyway?
Different people die differently I guess, my dad was fully conscious and able to hold a normal conversation 12 hours before his death. 8 years into cancer treatment.
With that being said, I feel like the only benefit of using war language would be that people living with cancer feel like they are doing something.
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u/zzid2d21 6d ago
My dad recently died from undiagnosed liver cancer after surviving a stint in the ICU with Covid. He was 84. My only take on it is, please wash your hands and wear your mask. Cancer and viruses do not give a rats patootie how hard you fight once you get the disease. But wearing a mask may prevent you spreading Covid and wearing sunscreen may have prevented the skin cancer that metastasized to his liver. I miss my Daddy....
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u/TheUsualSuspect 6d ago
Please give him a big hug from an internet stranger. I lost my father on December 4th to COVID and every day since has been like a gut punch. I can't count how many times I've made a mental note to tell him about something and then stopped as the air was sucked out of the room.
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u/BMoney8600 6d ago
I’m so happy that your dad is out of the hospital! He’s a warrior!
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u/joshbka 6d ago
This is great! Get him some good food, I can’t imagine he’s had anything resembling a real meal in a while!
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u/true_nexus 6d ago
He actually had said he LIKED the hospital food!! LOL
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u/microwavedave27 6d ago
He's probably like my grandpa. He eats pretty much everything, I've never heard him say he doesn't like something even when it's pretty bad.
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u/Perks508 6d ago
Holy shit that's awesome to hear bro, your dad is a fighter and I'm glad he pulled through!
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u/NotATroll0820 6d ago
COVID Nurse Manager here! Post-COVID residuals can be rough. Even after the COVID is gone, a lot of people still have issues.
My best advice is to practice deep breathing exercises, walk/move around, and get sunlight!
I wish you well, stay safe!
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u/true_nexus 6d ago
Thank you !!! Dad knows he's still got work to do - he's got a list of exercises (breathing and other wise) that he's got to do so we're looking forward to it!!
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u/The_Millenial 6d ago
Your dad look FADED
Please buy him his favorite beverage (not implying or excluding alcohol) specifically because I asked if you have the money to. The lad deserves it.
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u/GOPCommittedTreason 6d ago
My 83 year old mother let me know she had Covid-19 and was in the hospital three times.
She went on to rant about liberals and how terrible it is that the election was stolen from Trump.
I have not been looking forward to my mother's death, but that is only because I expect to find out that she's liquidated her estate and donated it to Trump.
I'm not joking.
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u/oujiasshole 6d ago
Hey dad i know you almost died just let me take this quick clout grab right quick
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u/redfirearne 6d ago
That’s very nice. My grandpa passed away yesterday from COVID.
But I’m very happy for you and your dad!
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u/VenialAJ144 6d ago
My grandpa (89) recently had COVID and me and my family were all worried when he got admitted to the hospital since we recently just lost my grandma. But the next day the hospital called us saying that he’s good and that he tried to walk out so we should probably go get him. I swear he’s made of rubber sometimes lol
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u/LeEtalonRouge 6d ago
Hell yeah! But damn, the man looks like he could def use a beer
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u/elmwoodblues 6d ago
Are you looking at the bill?
Jk, very glad it worked out for all of you.
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u/true_nexus 6d ago
We are SOOO lucky. We are in Canada so... the bill is not really noticeable ❤️
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u/360walkaway 6d ago edited 6d ago
In general, what are typical after-effects of recovering from COVID
Edit - downvoting for asking a question, ok
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u/true_nexus 6d ago edited 6d ago
Dad caught COVID-19 in late December and was tested and diagnosed on January 3rd.
He got really bad (fever and hypoxia) by January 6 and needed to be admitted to hospital for treatment. He came really close (was using 95% Oxygen by January 10) to being intubated and having to hit the ICU. At his age, that would have been very risky and there was a high probability that he wouldn’t come out the other side of this.
He battled back and slowly got out of the woods until he went to a rehab facility on February 12.
Today, he was given the green light to finally go back home!!! ❤️❤️❤️
ETA: Holy cow! - Fellow Redditors - from the bottom of my heart (and my dad's too!!) I just wanted to say "thank you" for your kind words, your support, and these reward things that really shouldn't belong with my post. I was just so happy that Dad was able to recover and leave the hospital after 6 weeks I wanted to share.
I know my post said "winning" and I know there's a comment regarding use of language such as this - I am going to edit the title - but I also want to say it felt like a "win" to me - I don't mean that if I lost my dad (which I was prepared for as much as one possibly could) that somehow he "lost" or was a "loser" - this virus is a tough one for Octogenarians - most don't come out of it. One of the doctors that treated Dad had said that he was the "good news story that the entire floor of the hospital needed".... that really made me aware of just how tough this has been on all the doctors, nurses, front line staff, essential workers, etc. etc. but so much for those healthcare workers. So many people slipping through their hands that they're trying to save. So I (and Dad) are so so so so lucky.
I will do my best to keep the language used, when it comes to healthcare situations, in mind... so thank you for that <3