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Dad Got Released From Hospital Today After Battling COVID And Winning! (He’s 84)

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u/true_nexus 6d ago edited 6d ago

Dad caught COVID-19 in late December and was tested and diagnosed on January 3rd.

He got really bad (fever and hypoxia) by January 6 and needed to be admitted to hospital for treatment. He came really close (was using 95% Oxygen by January 10) to being intubated and having to hit the ICU. At his age, that would have been very risky and there was a high probability that he wouldn’t come out the other side of this.

He battled back and slowly got out of the woods until he went to a rehab facility on February 12.

Today, he was given the green light to finally go back home!!! ❤️❤️❤️

ETA: Holy cow! - Fellow Redditors - from the bottom of my heart (and my dad's too!!) I just wanted to say "thank you" for your kind words, your support, and these reward things that really shouldn't belong with my post. I was just so happy that Dad was able to recover and leave the hospital after 6 weeks I wanted to share.

I know my post said "winning" and I know there's a comment regarding use of language such as this - I am going to edit the title - but I also want to say it felt like a "win" to me - I don't mean that if I lost my dad (which I was prepared for as much as one possibly could) that somehow he "lost" or was a "loser" - this virus is a tough one for Octogenarians - most don't come out of it. One of the doctors that treated Dad had said that he was the "good news story that the entire floor of the hospital needed".... that really made me aware of just how tough this has been on all the doctors, nurses, front line staff, essential workers, etc. etc. but so much for those healthcare workers. So many people slipping through their hands that they're trying to save. So I (and Dad) are so so so so lucky.

I will do my best to keep the language used, when it comes to healthcare situations, in mind... so thank you for that <3

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u/Diluted22 6d ago

As someone who lost their dad to COVID in August, please give him a big hug for me. I miss mine everyday

Wish you both the best

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u/stinkybuttbuttsmell 6d ago

Dude I'm sorry. I lost mine in September and I think I've cried every day since then. Hope you're doing ok.

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u/Diluted22 6d ago

Having a hard time with it. I was at the hospital when he passed and just sometimes feels like I should have tried to convince him to want to keep fighting, but he had enough and wanted to stop life support so I went ahead and signed the paper work and let him go.

I feel so much guilt about it almost every day

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u/Zucchini_Dramatic 6d ago

You shouldn't, that was his choice. You did what every loving son/daughter would do. I'm sorry for your loss.

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u/spinbutton 6d ago

I can only give you my 2 cents. I think you did the right thing. Please don't beat yourself up or feel guilty for doing the human, rational thing.

Last March when the pandemic really looked serious I immediately contacted the lawyers who set up my will and added in a 'do not resuscitate' order and all the paperwork my family would need to make sure I wouldn't linger when there is no quality of life and little chance of survival.

I'm glad you were able to be there when he passed. Hugs to you

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

<3
I can only provide my insight into what occurred when I lost Mom. She was in a coma after experiencing a brain aneurysm while her and Dad were on a flight down to Argentina and Venezuela for a vacation. They ended up making an emergency landing in Salvador Brazil. There she remained (with Dad) until I got down there about 2 weeks later.

We stayed a month - until she was stable enough to endure an air ambulance flight back to Toronto Canada.

She remained in a coma the whole time.

Eventually the decision had to be made. My uncle (her brother) and Dad were on the same page - remove life support and make her "comfortable". She lasted another 2 weeks (long time).

I was on the periphery of the decision making - but I still felt guilt years after the fact. I questioned many things. So, what I'm saying is, I empathize with you and what you're going through. Know that you did what you had to do and that, in that situation, for you, for your father, it was the right thing.

No one on this planet is going to fault you for that. No one on this planet will not feel some sense of sympathy with you for having to make that decision. So please, dear and kind stranger, don't beat yourself up over it. Life deals us some really crappy cards sometimes - we just have to play with the hand we are dealt at the time.

Stay well and be kind to yourself <3 <3 <3 <3

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u/duelingsith 6d ago

Another who lost her dad, here. We have a subreddit, covidgrief. Feel free to tell your story there 💛

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u/stinkybuttbuttsmell 6d ago

Very similar to my experience. I hope you were able to have a few last moments with him when he was able to understand you.

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u/prettyuncertain 6d ago

I'm so sorry to hear that you found yourself in such a difficult situation - I can't even begin imagine. But I also think honoring his wish was one of the most loving, respectful, and selfless things you could have done for him.

Sending you lots of strength.

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u/xenfermo 6d ago

Hey bud, I had to go through the same thing back in November, luckily I had 3 other siblings that were on the same page after we received "that" call from his doctors. We had lost our mom a month prior who already had a serious of underlying health conditions but covid19 just pushed her over the edge but dad was an individual that never stepped inside a hospital before this other than the days we came to this world.

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u/JesusLuvsMeYdontU 6d ago

I'm very sorry for what you are and will continue to go through. Your local area likely has a hospice service. Hospices generally specialize in end-of-life care, and after care for the caregivers, like you. Their services, including grief counseling, which is confidential, are often offered at no charge, or if they need to charge based on circumstances, it's for a fraction of what you would pay private pay for a private therapist. Please consider reaching out to them. This is what they do, and they are really good at it. I wish you fortitude and self-compassion

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u/Pretend-Panda 6d ago

You did a profoundly loving, unselfish and courageous thing when you let your father make that choice freely. It was deeply generous and an act of true grace. He was truly lucky to have a child who loved him enough to be so brave and kind.

I am very sorry for your loss.

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u/goosebumples 6d ago

Please don’t feel guilty. You respected your father’s rights when it would mean a huge loss for you and your family, even though you were undoubtedly not ready- the level of love and understanding this took says so very much about your relationship with him.

You are the best of children, honourable and decent. Grieve him because he was worthy of a huge sacrifice, but let the guilt go.

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u/motherwarrior 6d ago

No, if it was what your dad wanted you did the right thing. Don’t beat yourself up. You honored his wishes. He was tired. I was there for both my parent’s passings about 10 years apart. I felt so honored.

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u/Mijman 6d ago

If it was his last wish, you shouldn't feel guilty.

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u/pzzld1 6d ago

I’m sorry you had to sign those papers , but you were following your dad’s wishes. I am a retired nurse. When elderly patients are so sick and so tired of fighting to live every day, they are ready to die. Many seemed to be at peace with the fact, as your dad most likely was if he knew he couldn’t fight any longer. You wouldn’t have wanted him to suffer . Hopefully he lived a good long life and got to do all he wanted to do while here. Best wishes to you. 💕

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u/HarleyBibble 6d ago

"If we cannot choose the time and place of our own demise, then we are miserable slaves indeed."

~ anonymous

Saw this on the wall of the restroom in a tobacco shop in Atlanta in 1982. Placed the arrow in my quiver and nock it anytime the topic of a sane surrender arises. If it wasn't your dad's choice, whose should it have been? Be at peace.

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u/Joe_PM2804 6d ago

I can't blame you for feeling guilty, but you fulfilled his wish, I'm sure he lived an amazing live and be got to go in peace, at his own choice, not in pain. I'm sorry for your loss, and stay strong <33

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u/Few_Carrot_3971 6d ago

Oh darling. I am so frigging sorry.

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u/Thisfknguyritehere 5d ago

You honored his wishes and that is noble as fuck. Be proud. Idk you but in that instance you're a good son.

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u/omnomnious 6d ago

I’m really sorry for your loss. Can’t imagine what you’re going through :(

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u/spinbutton 6d ago

Stinky, I'm so sorry. My deepest condolences.

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u/Yourdigitalbabe 6d ago

aww, hugs.

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u/U_Trash_at_WarZone 6d ago

I’m sorry for your loss. I just lost mine on the 10th of this month. I feel your pain brother. Stay strong and keep your head up. They are sending their blessings our way 🙏🏾

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u/IIIIIIIIDidIt 6d ago

Just lost mine on the 12th. It hit hard and was so sudden. My condolences to you and your family.

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u/omnomnious 6d ago

I’m sorry for your loss :(

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u/omnomnious 6d ago

I’m sorry for your loss

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u/soulbribra 6d ago

Prayers ya’ll, Covid took my old man on January 19th. He was 75 and definitely had some good years left.

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u/tenth 6d ago

I lost mine four days ago. Only 58 years old. I thought I'd at least get another 10 with him. Now I'm just left in his wake, wondering what ever I'll do.

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u/Midwestern_Childhood 6d ago

I'm so sorry. That's so young for him--and you too. I hope you can take some comfort in the love you had for each other, even if his life was cut off way too soon. Try to live the life he'd have wanted for you, keeping his memory in your heart.

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u/badgerclark 6d ago

My sympathies. Lost ours in May to Covid. He was 65 and healthy. It’s a surreal experience that plays havoc on the grieving process.

I was told recently that “losing someone to Covid is no more traumatic than any other death.”

To anybody reading this who thinks they have an idea of what it’s like, imagine losing someone to a car accident and finding out there are people on this planet who straight up do not believe that’s possible. And that you’re lying. Or that there “must have been underlying conditions.” If I hear that phrase again this week I’m gonna be on the news.

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u/duelingsith 6d ago

THIS. I am enraged by the public indifference to the loss we as humanity, as a country, and as individuals have faced. I honestly don't know how to function in a world where so many people say such deliberately hurtful things

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u/cheezemeister_x 6d ago

I lost my mom on Nov 28. Not to COVID, but to another form of lung failure that ultimately caused the same symptoms and suffering as COVID does. She ended up in the ICU, and I had to make the tough decision to remove her from the ventilator. I know what you're going through. I hope for us both to find peace. It will be a while for me.

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u/omnomnious 6d ago

I’m really sorry for your loss, that must be rough as hell

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u/katiemae111 6d ago

I lost both of my parents in January. Two weeks apart. Covid sucks HARD. Every single day is a struggle and my first reaction seeing stuff like this is jealousy. But ultimately im happy that people get to experience the joy of making it through this terrible disease.

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u/stopbeingatotalbitch 6d ago

I’m sorry for your loss. My side of the family also lost 2 cousins and a grandma to COVID. I hope you’re doing better!

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u/Rabamus 6d ago

Lost my dad at 79 on 27th January because of COVID. Went through an otherwise successful operation but caught it in hospital.

Miss him more than I can put into words. We're all in this together tho

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u/WettWednesday 6d ago

Lost my mom to covid in early june. This guy's dad is a fucking TROOPER dude. The mental aspect of being stuck alone in the hospital is a harder fight than the virus itself. Spending that much time recovering... Man. Fuck that had to be hard.

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u/helloartisthere 6d ago

I'm so sorry. I lost mine too back in October. Still wish I could have talked to him one last time :(

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u/spinbutton 6d ago

Diluted, I'm so sorry. That is so rough.

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u/Leonidas122333 6d ago

Sorry for your loss

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u/ctrl_alt_del_ 6d ago

Lost mine in October - best wishes to all of you.

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u/Sarah_al94 6d ago

I miss my dad too, he died in April 😞 I’m so sorry for your loss

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u/inter-webs 6d ago

Man- no jokes here. Just real sorry for your loss. Hang in there

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u/dreamsignals86 6d ago

Glad he’s ok!

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u/DarkZero515 6d ago

Went through something similar. Dad is 70 and has asthma. Was using over 80% oxygen and was told if he got worse he might have to use ventilator.

Got him back home on the 1st through a home monitoring program and his oxygen levels are finally great. Just has to work on regaining his strength.

Congrats and cherish him since we are lucky to have more time with them

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u/VanceAstrooooooovic 6d ago

Curious, do you feel greater animosity towards antimaskers? I work in a Health Clinic and I feel like I have a lot of pent up anger over this.

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u/hapanick 6d ago

I lost one of my uncles right at the beginning and seeing people refusing to wear masks on public transport etc. makes my blood boil

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u/Glowie2k2 6d ago

Not OP but I must admit my rage has increased. Being British I would normally just tut and pull a face, now I’ll tell people off if they’re not wearing them or wearing them incorrectly

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u/MadameSatanis 6d ago edited 5d ago

As someone that ended up having to deal with 7 members with Covid on Christmas, (two eventually hospitalized), there are no words to describe how angry I am at the past administration and at all the people that continuously defy science. But I need to be present for them so my energy is now diverted to making sure that everyone is eventually well. Anger and hate consume me too much and does not change anything for the better. I just hope that vaccines happen for everyone soon and that we can move on, with my family all still here.

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u/jesst 6d ago

My father in law passed from covid early on. I was fucking petrified of people in the start. Like going to shops I just fucking stayed as far away from people as I humanly could. If people got too close I would freeze and not know what to do.

I’ve relaxed a lot, but I fucking hate anti maskers and dick nosers. There is a special place in hell for them.

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u/MartiniRossi42 6d ago

YES! Been thru it as well with my 85yo mother recently. She came home with hospital delirium, which is scary when she was fine beforehand. Is he living with you or someone, he looks worn out and will need TLC for a bit.

Congrats!

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u/mces97 6d ago

Just keep an eye on him. Not trying to scare you but just be real. Sometimes people seem to be doing better and go down hill a month, two after. Have him talk to his doctor about possibly being on ecotrin, 84mg aspirin to prevent clots. It's pretty safe to take at that dose, if he's not already on a blood thinner or has a medical history that would be an issue for him to take aspirin. Wishing you and your father all the best.

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

Thanks kindly and I will do so! <3

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u/U_Trash_at_WarZone 6d ago

I lost my father earlier this month. He was 67 and as healthy as can be. Healthier and in better shape than me, and I’m 28. I hope you make the best of your time together. 💙

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u/bitchkat 6d ago

My dad tested positive on a Saturday, went into the hospital on Tuesday and died on Sunday.

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u/spinbutton 6d ago

I'm so sorry - my deepest condolences.

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u/Alfie61 6d ago

12 days for my dad it was so quick he didn’t stand a chance .

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u/KingTheon 6d ago

Sorry for your loss😞

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u/Flatulent_Ninja 6d ago

Huzzah, congratulations! I hope everyone enjoys his homecoming!

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u/KDawG888 6d ago

not intubating him might have saved his life. glad he fought through it

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u/jedilow 6d ago edited 6d ago

Intubation is terrible, but not having it is even worse. When I was intubated I was already on 60 liters of oxygen, and I still could barely breathe - my lungs had failed at that point. I knew I was dying and there were no other options.

After two rounds of pneumonia, crashing, and two weeks on a ventilator, I finally woke up in November (36 years old and fairly healthy going into it) and had beaten covid (though, it's still trying to get back at me with diabetes and other effects).

My dad was also intubated (before I was), miraculously we both made it.

Edit: There's one more option if the ventilator doesn't work - ECMO. It oxygenates your blood mechanically and has a fairly high survival rate (especially considering how bad you're doing at that point).

Also - in response to another post, I gave an outline of what I went through https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/lqn48h/dad_got_released_from_hospital_today_after/goid53k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

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u/Hipposeverywhere 6d ago

A healthy 36 year old getting that bad isn't something you hear about very often at all. I wonder how many stories there are out there that we just haven't heard yet. The wild fluctuation between who gets no symptoms, and who almost (or does) die is absolutely the scariest part of this whole thing

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u/Dauntess 6d ago

My best friend who's 35 pretty bad. She works out a lot and plays sports. Her heart rate didn't drop below 100 for a couple weeks. She was given the antibody transfusion and like the next morning she said she felt completely recovered.

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u/jedilow 6d ago

Yup. Every single person in the ICU commented on how young and healthy I was, and how it makes no sense. The endocrinologist afterwards kept saying how she's not used to people that were so lean.

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u/Cultural-Ant-8650 6d ago

My friend died at 40 from covid !!! Nothing preexisting either (like no diabetes or anything )

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u/Hipposeverywhere 6d ago

That's horrible. I'm really sorry. As a 42 year old .this is the stuff that keeps me up at night despite the very low odds.

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u/spinbutton 6d ago

geez, I'm so sorry! It really put you thought the wringer! It is so crazy how much variation there is in how it affects people. I'm so sorry you had the hard road.

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u/jedilow 6d ago

Thanks! It's not easy now (especially because I have no memories of my body's deterioration - I lost 15 lbs being on a vent for two weeks; as they say in Babylon 5 - I have a hole in my mind), but compared to where I've been, things are amazing. Good has come from it too - we've been able to help some others with knowing what's going on with covid (my wife's a veterinarian and was in constant contact with my doctors and my dad's doctors, so she's become an expert on covid treatment).

One thing though - I didn't go through the hardest part of it, my family (and friends) did... while they were dealing with my (and my dad's) ups and downs, and not knowing if we were going to make it, I was sleeping (with some hallucinations). I had ten minutes of sheer terror (with some leadup knowing that my body was failing), followed by two weeks of sleep. My wife had the worst of it, having to think of a life without me while trying to keep up with the doctors (and helping them) with my and my dad's treatment (my dad was in a terrible hospital, which apparently my work (lawyer) had to threaten to sue because of his treatment, but amazingly he survived).

FYI - I posted what happened (without many details about when I was on the vent, which my wife ended up having 40 pages of updates on, since things swung so drastically every day) here: https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/lqn48h/dad_got_released_from_hospital_today_after/goid53k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

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u/KDawG888 6d ago

that.. is not true at all. if intubation would have been beneficial they would have done it for him. intubation is very rough on the body and should be avoided if possible. this guy made it through so obviously he didn't need it.

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u/jedilow 6d ago

It's beneficial as a last resort. When I was intubated I couldn't keep my oxygen saturation level at even 80% on 60L of oxygen. I would be dead right now if it wasn't for the ventilator.

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u/Sadbuddy44 6d ago

Why could intubation have made him worse?

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u/DuplexSuplex 6d ago edited 6d ago

Worsens the cycle of inflammation in the lungs (ARDS) that covid causes.

More pressure from invasive ventilation and oxygenation means more inflammation. Think of your lungs as wet cement and a ventilator as a cement mixer.

Non invasive oxygenation is best (though bipap is bad too and has a very high failure rate. HFNC (Hi flow nasal cannula is the last stop you want to make on the oxygenation ladder)). You want to do everything you can to avoid being intubated.

Sure some people come off the vent....

But being intubated because of covid at advanced age carries an 84% mortality rate. And a younger age carries about a 50% mortality rate.

Sources:

https://www.yalemedicine.org/news/ventilators-covid-19

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33119402/

And myself. Been an ICU nurse since the start of this shit show. Seen many a dead dad, mom, son, daughter, and every other possible member of a family.

It's nice to see someone survive. Happy for you and your family OOP.

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u/murdock_RL 6d ago edited 6d ago

Can confirm. Lost my aunt to being intubated too long:(

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u/DuplexSuplex 6d ago

May they be resting in peace. Sorry for your loss.

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u/spinbutton 6d ago

So sorry for your loss. Such a tough time for everyone.

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u/InertBrain 6d ago

You've got a lot of replies noting the risks of ventilators, but it's worth keeping in mind these risks should be taken into account when a patient is put on a ventilator. They are only used as a last line of defence, when the patient is still not getting enough oxygen despite exhausting less invasive measures.

Ventilators do save lives when used appropriately.

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u/Traditional-Shine 6d ago

I think it’s quite intense/ hard on the body like I know in Britain there’s a waiting list of covid long term patients (ventilated) who need these special machines to take over the role of their lungs to give them a break because they’re so damaged.

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u/Dregoran 6d ago

I'm not a doctor, but it's my understanding that being intubated increases likelihood (by a fair bit) of developing pneumonia. This risk is further increased the longer you are intubated. I believe the largest risk is in the first 2 weeks after intubation. Unsure if there are other things that could cause issues.

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u/Guerrin_TR 6d ago

I just got over COVID last week myself. Congrats to your Dad. Certainly had to endure a lot more than I did.

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u/AFlockOfTySegalls 6d ago

Glad he's doing well! The road to recovery might be a long one but it's the better option. It's fucking terrifying stuff. My dad is 20 years younger than yours and tested + the week before Thanksgiving. Was in the ICU two days prior and vented Saturday. He was on for three days, and they too didn't like how he reacted when he went on. He came out of it though.

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u/Sawses 6d ago

Good for him! My parents are both fairly unhealthy (though many years younger), and I do worry about them because they don't take the precautions seriously.

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u/Shitty-Hands-Derek44 6d ago

my mother got covid and nowadays shes just waiting for her taste and smell to come back. She caught a hint of garlic, chips, my dads weed, etc. so shes getting fragments of both.

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u/jhibner281 6d ago

So glad to hear this! Had almost the exact same happen to my 92 year old father in law and he made it through as well. Best of luck and Heath to you both moving forward. P

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u/Glowie2k2 6d ago

Thank you for posting this, my mum is currently in ICU on the ventilator. She’s been on for just over 24 hours and responding to the treatment. I’m just glad to see positive stories as they give me hope.
Sending your dad virtual hugs from the UK

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u/dsnywife 6d ago

This virus is so scary. I’m very glad your dad “won” his fight. I lost my 95 year old dad in December of 2019. He had never been sick and still played lots of golf until he was 89. For a while during his first hospitalization he would say I’m not even 90 and I really thought he was preparing to let go. When he started saying I’m almost 90 I had hope and we had him for 5 more years. Those years are precious to me. Be happy with him. Be present. Love him with all you have. Please tell him that this random internet stranger is so happy that he is home.

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u/SassaQuinn 6d ago

So glad he's still with you💚

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u/Aum88 6d ago

Congratulations and best wishes.

Your dad is a true warrior and won the horrific battle.

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u/bolilloFrances 6d ago

My mom fought against covid and she recovered but with some aftermaths. She is back home but she uses oxygen all day.

Congratz for your dad!

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u/phylumbeforeclass 6d ago

Your dad is a trooper! So happy for you and your family! Wishing you and your dad the best! 🤗

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u/meganam38 6d ago

I’m happy to hear he’s ok and on his way home! My dad was on the vent for over 50 days and made it home a couple weeks ago! Give your dad a hug for us!

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u/civgarth 6d ago

I am sincerely happy for you and your pops my dude. My dad's the exact same age and I'm worried sick.

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u/PuddleDuster 6d ago

You look strangely like Fluffy btw :)

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u/formynexttrickanvils 6d ago

I was thinking Duff from ace of cakes.

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u/noonehasthisoneyet 6d ago

yes! totally though that was him too.

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u/Gasrim 6d ago

I came here to post this.

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u/Eliasv16 6d ago

I legit thought it was him too at first!

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u/Geodevils42 6d ago

He's got Kevin Smith surprise eyes to me.

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u/lodger238 6d ago

Really hits home for me, so nice to read this.
I lost my 89 year old mother to it last year.
My very best to all of you.

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

❤️ Oh my!! I am so sorry to hear this!! My deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss 😢

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u/spinbutton 6d ago

geez Lodger, I'm so sorry. No words for how much it sucks.

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u/EmmaNovela2017 6d ago

I'm sorry for your loss. May her memory forever be a blessing to you.

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u/Strbrst 6d ago

A true /r/pics moment

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u/Hungryapple13 6d ago

Wouldn’t have 10 upvotes without the headline.

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u/peterthefatman 6d ago

Maybe if it was “grandpas 100th birthday”

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u/TheGoodAndTheBad 6d ago

In-car selfie wearing masks

To the top of /r/SobStories /r/pics we go!

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u/imasmolspoon 6d ago

nice mask! you two look super happy!

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u/pm_me_nude_pix 6d ago

lol quite the mask to wear in this circumstance

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

We so are!! Thank you kindly! ❤️

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u/LePontif11 6d ago edited 6d ago

Yeah he has that signature look happy people have of stop taking pictures and take me home you damn moron lmao

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u/dr_xenon 6d ago

Now he can’t really give you the business about how “back in my day we had to...” “and I beat covid at 84!!”

When things are going rough just think “ if Dad beat covid at 84, I can do this...”

Cherish every day you have with him. You two look very lucky to have each other.

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u/idrow1 6d ago

Mine didn't make it out of the COVID wing, glad yours did. It's nice to read some good news for a change.

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u/gaoba75 6d ago

"Goddamnit it son, just take me home"

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u/MegatronRx 6d ago

He looks exhausted. Get him his favorite ice cream.

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u/Bananinio 6d ago

Why did you smoke a joint right after he left?

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u/Guillotine_Nipples 6d ago

Nice selfie! I love this sub! So many great /r/pics!

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u/Nano559 6d ago

Glad to hear your dad is doing okay! Can we all please stop using this "winning" thing though? It implies the people that died are simply losers. This goes with people dealing with cancer too, which is where I've seen these types of comments being made.

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u/Nano559 6d ago

Surviving cancer or covid isn't a choice or a reflection of mental strength.

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u/OutlanderMom 6d ago edited 5d ago

I’ve known people whose spirits were tired and broken from fighting cancer. They gave up and then they died. It’s important that the sick one fights mentally and physically, and keep their focus on “winning”. And really, if he’s 84 and survived covid and the ventilator, he’s a winner if that’s what he wants to call himself. It doesn’t make others “losers” or “second place” if they lost the battle. Covid kills indiscriminately.

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u/personyourestalking 6d ago

This. Mental strength goes a long way when fighting illness of any kind. Our minds and our bodies are connected. I don't think it's helpful for people to be a rain cloud on someone's victory because they see a positive and think about what the negative looks like. I just want to be happy for people and celebrate for them. We've gotta stop seeing other people's joy and comparing it to our own sorrow. Live vicariously through other people's happiness instead of making them feel guilty for it. Were all in this pandemic together.

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u/JeffBuildsPC 6d ago

To be fair, I’ve personally heard people say that their loved ones lost their fight with cancer. So I think the winning/losing a battle with a sickness is fairly common and doesn’t necessarily disrespect those who passed.

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u/Osiris_Of_This_Shit_ 6d ago

Or maybe we could start putting interesting pictures on the front page of /r/pics.

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u/TkOHarley 6d ago

I agree. Anyone whos lost a loved one to Covid isn't gonna have a good time seeing this post and seeing how the dad survived because he "battled" as opposed to the deceased ones who 'didnt choose to fight back'.

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u/Nano559 6d ago

Exactly. I don't mean to cast a shadow on OP's great news, I know he didn't intend any disrespect. This type of language is common.

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u/nigookmixbear 6d ago

I sorted by controversial to find this comment because I experience similar feelings - I am exploring these thoughts: Survival is different than fight and the battle/fight lingo is like an abstraction to conceptualize what is compromising your life. Similarly to you my mind extrapolates the winning term to imply that those who don't survive what they experienced didn't try hard enough or weren't as strong of people, when in reality circumstances are too nuanced to be paralleled from person to person. I'm sure there are internal tactics that can influence survival rate but it isn't like skilled output, more like wisdom. I don't think the person on ventilator is fighting a balrog inside of their mind with masterful movement and righteous motivation to determine their worth to the physical realm; my speculation is that being relaxed and stable is more helpful to recovery than treating it like a battlefield. How conscious are you when you're almost dying anyway? Is there a subversive impact from the hypothetical societal assessment (with respect to the strength of your fundamental being) to the recovery process? To me it seems like becoming brutally ill is more like having your village raided than participating in a war.

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u/jedilow 6d ago

From my experience (intubated for two weeks) and my dad's (intubated as well), the mental aspect did matter - it's incredibly easy to give up, especially with all of the hallucinations that you end up having and your condition when you do wake up. Sure, it's not the entire picture of why we survived, but from my perspective it was pretty significant.

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u/hhhhhhmmmmm 6d ago edited 6d ago

Edit: thought you were replying to the cancer comment, this reply isn't about COVID.

Survival is different than fight and the battle/fight lingo is like an abstraction to conceptualize what is compromising your life

When my dad was living with cancer, he didn't want to be constantly reminded that he had cancer. People calling him "brave, strong and a fighter" were constant reminders and kind of demoralizing; He had no control over what was going on, and those compliments felt like people where pitying him.

How conscious are you when you're almost dying anyway?

Different people die differently I guess, my dad was fully conscious and able to hold a normal conversation 12 hours before his death. 8 years into cancer treatment.

With that being said, I feel like the only benefit of using war language would be that people living with cancer feel like they are doing something.

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u/zzid2d21 6d ago

My dad recently died from undiagnosed liver cancer after surviving a stint in the ICU with Covid. He was 84. My only take on it is, please wash your hands and wear your mask. Cancer and viruses do not give a rats patootie how hard you fight once you get the disease. But wearing a mask may prevent you spreading Covid and wearing sunscreen may have prevented the skin cancer that metastasized to his liver. I miss my Daddy....

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u/SecAdept 6d ago

I love that he is recovering. Congrats. Tough dad!

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u/pinetreenation 6d ago

I just feel incredibly happy for you and your family!!!

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u/TheUsualSuspect 6d ago

Please give him a big hug from an internet stranger. I lost my father on December 4th to COVID and every day since has been like a gut punch. I can't count how many times I've made a mental note to tell him about something and then stopped as the air was sucked out of the room.

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u/BMoney8600 6d ago

I’m so happy that your dad is out of the hospital! He’s a warrior!

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

At 84, he really showed me how strong he is!!

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u/BMoney8600 6d ago

I wish him more years of being an amazing father

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u/joshbka 6d ago

This is great! Get him some good food, I can’t imagine he’s had anything resembling a real meal in a while!

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

He actually had said he LIKED the hospital food!! LOL

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u/microwavedave27 6d ago

He's probably like my grandpa. He eats pretty much everything, I've never heard him say he doesn't like something even when it's pretty bad.

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u/deafndumb1 6d ago

He's 84 and a champ

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u/Perks508 6d ago

Holy shit that's awesome to hear bro, your dad is a fighter and I'm glad he pulled through!

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u/Tommy-1111 6d ago

God bless you Dad, keep up the good work!

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u/NotATroll0820 6d ago

COVID Nurse Manager here! Post-COVID residuals can be rough. Even after the COVID is gone, a lot of people still have issues.

My best advice is to practice deep breathing exercises, walk/move around, and get sunlight!

I wish you well, stay safe!

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

Thank you !!! Dad knows he's still got work to do - he's got a list of exercises (breathing and other wise) that he's got to do so we're looking forward to it!!

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u/Mr1onii-chan 6d ago

amazing bro!

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u/redname325 6d ago

Get that man a vaccine.

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u/The_Millenial 6d ago

Your dad look FADED

Please buy him his favorite beverage (not implying or excluding alcohol) specifically because I asked if you have the money to. The lad deserves it.

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u/SerbianWolf1976 6d ago

That really isn't an appropriate mask for the occasion. :)

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u/Kiiopp 6d ago

Yeah the shade of blue is off

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u/turkishdeli 6d ago

he looks high af

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u/MattieShoes 6d ago

You look too young to have an 84 year old father :-)

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u/3rdnumeral 6d ago

Such a relief for you, him and you whole family!

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u/aontachtai 6d ago

You look like if Joe Rogan and Fluffy had a child.

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u/Freshmann2019 6d ago

Awesome!

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u/RainFirst 6d ago

That’s a tough dad

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u/Glitched_Gaming95 6d ago

Life is good. 😌

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u/Confusedcryptonian 6d ago

Well done to your dad for getting through it. Old school and resilient.

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u/LadyAmalthea86 6d ago

God bless your family. What a joyous day!

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u/dizneyqueen 6d ago

Congratulations!! It's wonderful he has mad it home

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u/1920sRobot 6d ago

Your dad's awesome

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u/Dangerous_Listen_106 6d ago

my god i can see the soy face even though he has a mask on

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u/Leonidas122333 6d ago

Congrats guy my 75 year old father also beat COVID

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u/Ziribbit 6d ago

Tell your dad “nice job Tiger” but try not to be weird about it.👍🏻

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u/bigdxckbrittany 6d ago

Yee haw to that

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u/GOPCommittedTreason 6d ago

My 83 year old mother let me know she had Covid-19 and was in the hospital three times.

She went on to rant about liberals and how terrible it is that the election was stolen from Trump.

I have not been looking forward to my mother's death, but that is only because I expect to find out that she's liquidated her estate and donated it to Trump.

I'm not joking.

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u/oujiasshole 6d ago

Hey dad i know you almost died just let me take this quick clout grab right quick

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u/redfirearne 6d ago

That’s very nice. My grandpa passed away yesterday from COVID.

But I’m very happy for you and your dad!

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u/MammothPension 6d ago

congrats!

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u/z96girl 6d ago

We're all glad he's feeling well!

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u/Qiah_Coronel 6d ago

God bless to your father god is what he just need

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u/bipster625 6d ago

You melted my black, empty ❤️

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u/IndividualConfusion8 6d ago

Hell yea! Go dad go!!!!

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u/Background-Teach-307 6d ago

you sure he's winning?

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u/VenialAJ144 6d ago

My grandpa (89) recently had COVID and me and my family were all worried when he got admitted to the hospital since we recently just lost my grandma. But the next day the hospital called us saying that he’s good and that he tried to walk out so we should probably go get him. I swear he’s made of rubber sometimes lol

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u/Professional_Ad6123 6d ago

HELL YEAH POPS! So stoked for your family!

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u/StevoBP 6d ago

Your dad is a true survivor. Any disease would kill most 84 y/o. Congrats.

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u/[deleted] 6d ago

Big love for you and dad

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u/LeEtalonRouge 6d ago

Hell yeah! But damn, the man looks like he could def use a beer

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u/Electrical-Yard-1022 6d ago

he looks stoned

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u/gruetzhaxe 6d ago

Wear at least a fucking FFP2 with him buddy. Without a valve.

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u/sjac89 6d ago

Your dad is one tough s.o.b

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u/davcc22 6d ago

You're dad is one tough son of a bitch! He will go to Valhalla when he chooses it's his time but that time wasn't now!

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u/FCRfav 6d ago

I'm happy for him and for your whole family! ♥️

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u/nnobahar 6d ago

Look like he hit a celebratory blunt lol!!

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u/BadNamingAlgorithm 6d ago

Your dad has a cool skull mask.

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u/retro604 6d ago

RGH? I see the Canada Post box there. :)

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u/YoullDoNuthin0001 6d ago

That is what you call old man strength

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u/i_broke_wahoos_leg 6d ago

Good job dad!

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u/elmwoodblues 6d ago

Are you looking at the bill?

Jk, very glad it worked out for all of you.

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u/true_nexus 6d ago

We are SOOO lucky. We are in Canada so... the bill is not really noticeable ❤️

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u/elmwoodblues 6d ago

Even better! Props, nice neighbor

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u/360walkaway 6d ago edited 6d ago

In general, what are typical after-effects of recovering from COVID

Edit - downvoting for asking a question, ok

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u/suthod 6d ago

Congrats 🥳

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u/caginger 6d ago

Yay 👏👏best news !